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two saturday’s ago, i started the bittersweet process of weaning my baby girls from breastfeeding. as i type this, i have cold cabbage leaves stuffed into my bra and a throbbing and painful chest that doesn’t seem to want to say goodbye to the milk it has worked so hard to produce over the past 13 months. these photos are from my last time breastfeeding (i sat on the floor in the living room for our last feed after baths – i didn’t want to dare do it anywhere near our bedrooms!) the photos remind me of how much emotion (and how many different emotions) i was feeling in this moment.

i have loved and feel very thankful for my breastfeeding journey. at times it has been hard and entirely consuming, but it has also been something that i have thoroughly enjoyed and would do over and over again if i could. i understand how different, complex and polarizing the topic of feeding babies can be, but speaking from my personal experience, for me – it’s one of my favorite parts of the early stages of mothering and i have gotten choked up and emotional more than once this past week as i’ve begun weaning the girls.

as i’ve reflected on this whole experience, i realized how far my breastfeeding chapter has brought me in the last several years of mothering – from feeding my first baby girl 8 and a half years ago inside teeny tiny freaking dirty bathroom stalls when i was out in public because i just couldn’t figure out the positioning without flashing everyone and didn’t feel confident to go about any of it out in the open, to slowly over time, and with a lot of practice and support over the years, really honing in on the beauty that it is to get to nourish a little one on demand, wherever that might be. from walking while feeding on the streets of rome to plopping down on sidewalk corners all over manhattan, i’ve embraced feeding my 5 babies over the years in any scenario, and finally figured out how to do it so discreetly in public, you’d think i was just holding a sleeping baby or toddler because you can’t see anything!

why i am weaning madalena and beatrice at 13 months:

since i shared i was weaning on social media last week, and i started to read some of your questions and thoughts regarding it all, i thought it might be helpful to share in more detail the why and how for me in this whole ordeal.

for my experience, i have breastfed on demand with all my babies and in doing so, i have also co-slept during the breastfeeding years. it is just how i prefer it over here, and everyone has a different preference. (you can read more about our sleep situation in this post.) both beatrice and madalena as well as my other three children have never had anything but breastmilk from the very beginning right after they were born until we introduced other milk after their first birthdays. for us, while we have never had to supplement with formula and my milk supply/latch/nursing situation as a whole has been good, it’s also been a huge commitment for me – both physically and mentally. while i did not wean my other three children until much later on (eleanor was almost three! it was hard to deny her when i tandem-nursed with her baby brother samson who is just 16 months younger), and i am very pro- extended breastfeeding, over the last few months i slowly came to terms with the fact that i wouldn’t be able to continue breastfeeding the baby girls on demand for much longer after their first birthday.  the reasoning behind this is that it has been taking such a toll on me this round because of the lack of sleep. i just feel like i am always nursing – i finish feeding one baby and the other is ready – all day and night. it just feels like a different ballgame with two of them and i have felt pulled many times not being able to give of myself physically and mentally to my other children, my husband and other areas of my life because i feel like all i’m doing is breastfeeding. i realize this is so so touchy to address. i know some will say i should just cut out a few feedings and do one or two a day, or try the bottle instead, or just only feed when they nurse together, or get them out of my bed, or to hang on just a little bit longer until they self-ween since that is best for baby, or something else! so many ways to do it!, …but i can say that i have tried different ways to do this and approach this thing over the last little while and at the end of the day, i know and feel this is best for me and my family at this point – weaning completely. it’s hard to be here for me. to end this chapter i have loved so much. nursing them together (although now it’s nearly impossible because they always want whatever boob the other one has — see photo above!) has been my favorite part of this twin thing so far and i am so thankful. thankful for the experience, for a supportive husband, for patient older children, and for a body that worked hard around the clock to produce a strong milk supply (which still doesn’t wanna say goodbye ;)

the transition:

i have approached this weaning experience differently than i have the past 3 times i have weaned. in the past, because eleanor, samson and conrad were older, they could understand and grasp a little bit better what was going on. i was able to distract them more easily with a different food or toy when they wanted to eat, and i was also able to explain the circumstances a little bit better to them when they tugged on my shirt or asked for milk. (i have always been a big believer in the band-aid approach. it helps things click for them when they see a band-aid over the nipple as you explain that there is no more milk or there is a boo-boo there right now.) because their age allowed them to understand more about what was happening, i was able to wean cold turkey and not transition over several weeks time. this is a lot harder on your body, but for me it’s how i’ve always preferred it. for those interested, i share more about how to help your body transition below!

this time around, i have tried a more gradual approach since madalena and beatrice are much younger and can’t understand a band-aid situation and i don’t want this experience to be traumatizing in any way. i started by cutting out all daytime feedings for the first week, while still nursing them to sleep at night, during the night, and then with a big feed when they woke up. we were able to distract them well during their normal daytime feedings by taking them out in the stroller, offering other things to do or drink when they might have wanted milk and a lot of me being away from them during the hours where they normally gravitate towards feeding. they did really well during our days this way and my body did surprisingly well, too. i was definitely in pain by the end of each day and ready to feed, but it wasn’t terrible.

last friday, we began the weaning process during the night as well. because i co-sleep while i nurse, the weaning process also coincides with a little more structured sleep training in our family since this is the time they move onto their own sleeping space. we set up beatrice and madalena in their own beds and began a strong bedtime routine that we hope to stick to (and mimic as best we can when we travel.) it is so personal and different for everyone, and i can only speak to my experience, but i have never done the “cry-it-out” method and so our sleep training is a little more hands-on at first but what i am comfortable with. so far, the baby girls have been doing really well and i am very proud of them! hoping to keep up the routines and really hoping all continues to go well in the coming weeks.

my recommendations for weaning: 

while i am not a doctor or lactation consultant and can only speak to my experience, i do prefer the faster cold turkey approach for weaning. this is so different for everyone though based on your milk supply and situation. i know this approach can cause breast engorgement and often times lead to masitis (fortunately i have not experienced this) but after a few days of being uncomfortable, it’s over.

whichever approach you take, extended weaning or cold turkey- i recommend weaning during a time where you have a lot of help from a second pair of hands. we really cleared this last week and weekend so josh could be with the babies almost constantly so they weren’t seeing me and wanting the milk as much and also to help with my milk production (if i am holding them or i hear them cry, it is amazing how quickly my milk shows up!)

i recommend keeping cold cabbage leaves on hand to help with the discomfort of your breasts. change them out frequently (you won’t smell great, but it’s worth it.)  i also have been putting frozen bags of peas inside my bra for ten minute stretches every few hours to help with the swelling. something else that has helped as well is using a cold soda can and rolling it slowly over them to help break up any bumps or tightness you are experiencing. it gives instant relief. i also like to wear a tight bra at all hours (including sleeping) and try not to take any hot showers.

i think one of the biggest things to be sure to be doing while weaning is making sure your little one is getting a ton of physical affection. lots of hugs and kisses and hand holding. i imagine it must be extra difficult to go from the comfort and safety of mama’s breast to not having access to it, so the next best thing is extra loves. hard to do when you yourself are weaning and can’t really hold them close too frequently because it stimulates milk, but having someone else doing that, and doing it as much as you physically can, goes a long way.

if you’re interested, i wrote a post about breastfeeding twins right here (applies to singletons, too!) . i think it’s important to reiterate once again though that making sure your little one is fed and loved is what is most important. i understand breastfeeding is not for everyone. i appreciate the support and encouragement i myself have received from so many of you during this chapter and i thank you for your love.

  1. Kate

    Don’t let anyone make you doubt your decision. You have done an amazing job to nurse twins this long! Thank you for sharing because your doing so will help other mamas with weaning guilt!

  2. Shana

    You’re amazing and doing great! Sending you light and positive vibes during this emotional time.

  3. Annie Payseur

    Congratulations to you on reaching this incredible milestone! Thank you for sharing your journey. I think we need more stories like this to shine a light on all the facets of breastfeeding.

  4. Lottie

    If it’s the right choice for you, it’s the right choice for you! Nursing twins must be hard, especially with three others to also care for (as well as caring for yourself!) It sounds like you’re doing a great job x

  5. Curious

    I can’t believe you even have to justify or explain why you’re weaning. Honestly. Your boobs your decision!

  6. anne

    seriously you are a super-momma!! and i agree with above…the fact that anyone thinks it is their business just positively FLOORS me!

  7. Kim

    Thank you for this post! I did not nurse my first baby, and I am currently nursing an 8 month old. I have taken the same approach as you – nursing on demand and co sleeping, and have come to love nursing but the lack of sleep is really taking a toll. I think I will need to wean around 12 months as well and it’s been hard to find any information on that process. So helpful to hear about your process! I am also trying to gently move our baby out to the crib, with not much success. I would love to hear more about how you are approaching that without cry it out!

  8. Lauren

    It baffles me that others think it’s ok to weigh in on another’s situation. I guess because it wouldn’t be my first thought! I didn’t breastfeed my little Rosie which is totally ok because formula worked best for us but it definitely won’t stop me trying again in the future. Nice to know I’ll have your posts to come back to (in a few years of course!)

  9. Bridget Hunt

    Beyond impressive, all of it, no matter when you choose to wean. I don’t even know you, and I’m proud of you, Naomi!

  10. Brittan

    I hate that you have to explain your decision in this way because it’s just so personal and no one else’s business. Such an emotional thing, so make sure you’re taking care if you too. My son weaned slowly around 27 months, also so I could start sleeping again (we did the co-sleep thing too) because lack of sleep was giving me intense anxiety. I really, truly feel so lucky to have been able to nurse on demand and have a partner around to help take the burden off during the transition. Now my 10 month old daughter is co-sleeping and nursing and I’m treasuring it. I’m anxious for my body to fully recover and be mine again, but this is my last chance to do this for/with my child and I’m really feeling the weight of that right now. Best of luck to you on the next phase of twin parenting!

  11. Kylie

    Would love a post about your new nighttime routine with them and how you handled the transition to the crib! I have three (currently nursing/co-sleeping with a five month old) and getting a healthy sleep routine going is the HARDEST part of parenting for my husband and I. We are absolutely awful at it and dread it more than anything.

  12. Erica

    Congratulations on your breastfeeding journey with Madalena and Beatrice! Being able to nurse both of them for so long is a huge accomplishment. I love that you share so much of your life even around topics that can be polarizing. Fingers crossed more sleep is on your way!

  13. Lindsay

    You are a freaking WARRIOR. Ebf for over a year with twins!! So much hard work went into that. Congrats and good luck with the transition.

  14. Mary Jane

    My husband and I chose to practice Attachment Parenting on our own with all 4 of our children (now 39💙, 33💖, 23💖, & 18💙) we did what came naturally to us and we learned as we went along-for us, it was what felt right and worked for our family. We were very young with our first and received criticism for allowing our baby to decide when he was hungry, wanted to sleep,etc. We also co-slept and wore him/carried him all of the time.We felt that treating him with respect was comforting to him and would reinforce his self esteem and instill confidence. We also allowed our children to self wean (breastfed exclusively/no food through 2 years) and they generally weaned themselves around the age of 3 or 4. My husband and I were often considered to be “extreme”, we didn’t mind and now as all of our children are adults we are happy to see caring, empathetic, living people who feel comfortable with their ideas and love to help others. We feel in part that by meeting their needs rather than “training” them to fit into a schedule they were able to feel safe and secure and focus on happiness and explore their environment with joy. It’s wonderful to see our grandchildren enjoy the positive benefits of Attachment Parenting as well. Parenting styles certainly vary, it’s obvious that in your family your children are treated with respect and in turn feel secure and are obviously very happy. I think that it’s amazing that you breastfed your twins for their first year, such a happy and healthy experience for them as well as your whole family.❤

  15. CATHY Boulanger

    Such a personal decision. Good for you. You have obviously thought things through carefully. I also had such an easy and rewrding time nursing all of my babies and it is sad – the end of an era. I LOVED breastfeeding. Now all of my crew are teenagers and it truly just gets better and better. It is so much fun to spend time with such good and interestng people.
    Sending good vibes and kind prayers to you!

  16. Lisa

    Good for you! Doing what’s best for your family! I am very curious about your sleep training ideas/methods. Letting my baby cry it out is torture for me. Tips?

  17. Victoria

    High five! Just weaned my twin girls too, and it’s all the emotions and all the best stuff too! High five!

  18. i looove how gentle and emotionally in tune you are in weaning your babies!!!! it’s so sweet, and i know how hard that transition is on the mama. crazy to look back on nursing for so many years and know that a day will come when it will truly be the last. i’ve been nursing off and on for 7 and i have loved it so much. i really loved reading this. thank you for sharing!!

  19. Emily

    Wow! ☝🏻 Megan and Lenny.. you are sick individuals. Breastfeeding is seriously difficult for me. I usually end up pumping and I have never made it to 12 months. All the props in the world to you. I’m only commenting because I read those last two hateful comments and wanted to send some love your way. Found your blog when you lived in DC and I was there as well. I’ve followed you since then and never left a comment. People who aren’t happy in their lives and try to pull others down make me so sad. You keep doing you.

  20. Claire

    Congratulations! What a remarkable journey. Thank you for sharing and taking such care to emphasize personal choice over judgement. I’m currently nursing my first (turned two months yesterday!) and have often thought of you as inspiration in this parenting season. My husband and I roadtripped with our daughter last weekend to visit family for a reunion and wedding, and while the drive time doubled with breastfeeding, I was grateful. Mastitis, an abscess, and a sepsis scare almost made me think I wouldn’t be able to continue. God is good! I know I’m not alone in the tribe you’ve inspired to travel and parent with love and joy and courage! I reference you or your family to my husband as inspiration so frequently that my “blogger friend Taza from New York” has been shortened to our own colloquial “BFTFNY” at the start of a story 😂. I’ll never forget the whole-hearted anticipation of baby watch for Madalena + Beatrice and eagerly turning on my phone when my flight landed to find that they had indeed joined your family! When asked if I should breastfeed publicly, I answered a confident yes and pictured you smiling while nursing in the strawberry patch. All of this is to say a simple thank you for sharing snippets of your joyful home and family while making space for others to learn, share, and connect. Praying for y’all and proud of you mama! You are doing a great job!

  21. Katie

    Positivity! So, to kim, Kelly mom website is a great weaning and all thimgs parenting resource!

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  23. Amanda

    All I have to say is congratulations for feeding your babies so well for so long. You are absolutely amazing!!!

  24. Molly

    I just want to cry, thanks for sharing! I haven’t met anyone else yet that has done anything like what I’ve done. I’m still breastfeeding my toddler (mostly because I have no clue what I’m doing, and it’s a helpful tool.) To hear someone else do something so similar is very comforting. I only have one child so far, and I’m still trying to figure out how to wean him. I don’t want to traumatize him, so we’re going slowly but I have zero idea how to wean off of night time and nap nursing. He simply won’t sleep and has no problem staying up for 14+ hrs 🤦‍♀️ So you should totally do another post on how your routine goes! Anyway, you’re doing an amazing job!

  25. Kelly

    It makes me feel sad that women are so judgemental towards each other that you feel like you have to explain why you’re doing what’s best for your own body and your family. There is absolutely nothing at all wrong with weaning your children whenever you want or need to – no explanation needed! What’s best for YOU is what’s best for baby.

    How you care for your body now determines how you’ll feel as you get older and while it may seem like this is a lot of work now, raising all of these young children, it’s actually a lot more taxing as they get older, each going a different direction with their own interests – it’s exhausting! (mother of 6 here).

    These women who are judging you (or anyone) are doing it from their own insecurity. Those who shame when you breastfed “too long” felt ashamed that they quit so early. Those shaming because you’re weaning at 13 months (which is a perfect time actually!) are judging because they breastfeed until their child was four and they felt resentful that they didn’t stop sooner because they were afraid of being judged by someone else. While I don’t know you, I’ve been reading your blog for a long time and know that, at least from outward appearances, are doing a really great job raising your children, nurturing your marriage (which is just as important) and now it’s time to feel OK taking care of yourself too.

  26. Savannah

    I would love a post on your modified sleep training after weaning! We cosleep now too and I’m still breastfeeding but always looking for ideas on how to eventually transition our babe to his own bed.

  27. Car

    Thank you foto sharing your experience. Breastfeading ir hard job and what you have done is amaizing

  28. Chelsea

    I would love to know about the new bedtime routine! I feel like that’s the hardest part to change. My kids have always nursed right before bed. Loved the post!

  29. Betruetoyou

    Some of you may not be keen on my opinion. I breast fed each of my children. For me it was the natural and right thing to do. I didn’t care anout ” ruining my breast ” or the impact breast feeding would have on my breast. Some of you women are selfish and care more about your breast. Be honest and own your truth. That being said I have seen moms who would love to breast feed but for a variety of reasons cannot. I have seen moms who are grossed out by the idea of a baby suckling on their breast. Other moms simply choose not to nurse their babies. Lets all own our truth and stop judging one another. The reason this topic is so heated is simple. We are afraid of standing up for our truth. So what if you don’t want to breast feed. As long as your child is fed that is all that matters. Most people I find are not reacting to the fact they are being judged for not breastfeeding. They are reacting to the fact that they cannot speak their truth for fear of being shamed. A pregnant friend of mine recently told us she is not going to breast feed because she does not want to ruin her breast. She spoke her truth and I could not love her more.

  30. juneypie

    I put my gel breast pads in the freezer and used them instead of cabbage leaves. I couldn’t stand the idea of food on my body! Our youngest child is now 12, I weaned her at 2.5yrs old – and I still have frozen breast pads! They could double as ice packs, I guess.

    Good on ya for breastfeeding!

  31. Andy from Argentina

    You’ve done an amazing job mamma!
    I ve been following you and can’t believe how you did it so long with twins. It’s hard work at first and as you said you never sleep very well. I have a 20 months old baby girl. Still breastfeeding her. Only stopped at nights few months before I moved her into her room. I also enjoyed sleeping with her. Not sure when to stop breastfeeding her… as you say is our moment! And I think I’ll miss it so bad. Besos from an Argentinian follower!

  32. Harriet

    You’ve got this mama! You are a great mom, the girls get so much love from the whole family, they will be fine. Did you know that sage (the herb) dries up your milk? So much so that mamas with supply problems need to avoid using it even in cooking. You can add sage to cooking or make tea from fresh/dried sage leaves. Happy that your sleep situation will get better.

  33. Mara

    Thank you for sharing your breast feeding journey. I was so interested to hear your reasons for weaning, because I’m nosey and a mamma too….I have a 12 month old that I’m still nursing and a 3 yo that I nursed until he was 2, which I was never planning on, I just went with it and that’s how it all shook out.

    I love hearing about nursing. I find it really interesting and emotional and amazing. I also talk freely about it… I feel like you feel comfortable talking about it, not just because you felt judged or like you “needed to explain yourself” but because it was such a big part of motherhood.

  34. Adele

    That’s really impressive that you managed to breastfeed twins for so long! Well done! I was breastfeeding my 15 months old son until two weeks ago when my milk supply just stopped. I am 5 months pregnant and my breasts stopped making milk 😞 he seems ok with it though.

  35. Didiey

    Congrats on your journey! Mama happy, babies happy.

  36. Rebekah

    It’s amazing that you made it 13 months! You’re a rock star. Move forward with confidence! You’re justified to feel sad, thankful, and excited for the future all in the span of a few seconds. Thanks for sharing your story.

  37. Tara

    Well done for having bf your twins for this long!!! Amazing job! Your post made me teary – I’ll be wearing my 3rd baby soon too…. it’s such an emotional time, thank you for all your honest and open posts, your love for your babies really inspires me to keep going and I always feel like giving my babies a hug after many of your posts lol xx

  38. Jen

    Thank you for sharing this, Naomi. I’m a first-time mama figuring it out and your posts have given me a lot of confidence in my own mothering journey. We also breastfeed on demand and are not fans of “cry it out,” so our 20-month old still sleeps right by our side each night. I am not sure how long she will continue to nurse – I’m leaving that up to her – but you’ve given me some idea as to what the end may entail, so thank you for that!

    In addition to appreciating this post, I am also so thankful that you share your travel stories with us. When my daughter turned 1, we celebrated by taking her on an 8-week road trip – people thought we were crazy for doing it, but we have some of the best memories to now look back on, and we are planning to make it our tradition each year!

    Your honesty is refreshing in a world where so many people polish each facet of their life before posting – please continue to share your authentic self because I love to follow along on your adventures! :)

  39. Anne

    You have done amazing breastfeeding your babies loved your post my girl is same age as your girls and she is so demanding could not imagine two 💗

  40. Abby

    Thank you for sharing so honestly. I’m currently figuring out how to breastfeed my second and this post hit all my emotions as I recalled breastfeeding and weaning my first. Weaning can be so tough, and I’m amazed that you breastfed twins for so long. Thinking of you and best of luck with the process! So bittersweet.

  41. Karen Chrimes

    I loved this post. You’re so amazing for having kept going for so long and with two! My little girls only 9 months and we’re going to have to start weaning her off soon as I go back to work part time. I feel excited and sad at the prospect.
    I also feed my little one to sleep and co-sleep. Glad I’m not the only one. Sleep training is something I’m anxious about so if you have any helpful tips as you’re going through it too, that’ll be great. 😊

  42. Sofie

    This was really nice to read. I am about to start weaning my beautiful little girl as soon as she turns one. Simply because I don’t enjoy it as much as before and because I want my body to myself for just a little bit before next pregnancy. And I look at her and I’m so proud, thinking I’ve done such a great job feeding her the first year. :)
    I think you’ve done so great with all your kids, and being able to breastfeed twins fully until 13 months is socrazy impressive!! Thanks for the advices, they are very helpful.

  43. Kellie

    Girl I am just so proud of you for putting this out there! Feeding babies is such a touchy subject and I can relate to all the feels surrounding it (mama of 2 over here). Thanks for giving us a little glimpse into your lives…for what it’s worth you have done an amazing job being a mama to these kids and it’s really cool to give each other grace despite differences. I’m zero-attachment parenting, need my own bed (or room!) from the get-go, didn’t breastfeed my first, and struggled to enjoy breastfeeding my second but I totally get how letting go of this season is tear-worthy. I LOVE seeing moms supporting other moms so Naomi I salute you! ;)

  44. Harmony

    Sage essential oil helps dry up the breastmilk. Also peppermint too. Stay away from fennel, it helps boost the milk. I’m always amazed at how long people can nurse. My milk just dried up at 6 months with all four of my kids. It is what it is! You are amazing!

  45. Marie

    Thank you for sharing your experiences with us Naomi!!! I started weaning my twins a few days back and love using this oil for the boobs: https://www.stadelmann-natur.de/aromamischungen/schwangerschaft-geburt-stillzeit/1561/salbei-zypressen-oel-5ml

    My midwife recommended it to me, when I started weaning my oldest and it’s so helpful with a delicious smell.

    Also I can so relate with your feelings as I‘m weaning after 2 years this time and need to say goodbye to this stage of motherhood as my husband does not want to have more babies (yet ;-))

    All the best wishes for you and your loved ones!!!

  46. Rose

    Good for you Naomi on nursing all your kids whether it was for one to three years! Breast is best especially in the beginning of their life and I nursed all my kids for three years!! They are all five years apart so it wasn’t hard on me, then again times back then were not as stressful, and I didn’t have a demanding job and no twin babies! Even though my youngest is nine I honestly long for more days of breastfeeding but too old to have anymore kids, and I’m okay with that! Luckily I can reflect back on those days which is why I’m so grateful I nursed them for so long! Glad you enjoyed the journey because those breastfeeding times are truly the most special times in our lives with our babies. good luck on having your boobs back to normal too!! I’m sure it’s painful but the decision is yours, and glad you got to bond with the twins even if it was for 13 months! That’s a good length of time!


  47. Trisha

    I was lucky to nurse both kids to 15 months and that’s kinda what we did- cut out feedings during the day. Then the morning feed.
    But both kids liked to nurse to bed.
    My first just kinda stopped on his own.
    My second started biting HARD so I told her she was done and handed her over to daddy :)

    We all have to find our own way to do it because our bodies are all different.
    It’s a sad time for mom too- that closeness, however exhausting, is so amazing. I do miss it. But I enjoy the freedom too :)

  48. Great post! Totally agree with you on giving a lot of physical affection to baby while weaning.

  49. Lindsay

    Thank you for being so open about your breastfeeding journey! I weaned my baby girl recently at age 2.5 and it was so hard. Thanks for your honesty and positive words about breastfeeding. You’re doing great!

  50. Savannah

    Taza, you’re amazing and I admire you as a mother.
    I would love to hear more about weaning your other children, when they were older. I myself am still breastfeeding an 18 month old, and it’s starting to be a real burden, and I need either encouragement to persevere or a way to get out, I haven’t decided yet. My baby is milk-crazy, day and night, and I am starting to be too tired to continue…

  51. RACHEL

    I’m glad you were able to breastfeed so long with all of your kids and it definitely sounds like you are doing the best for yourself and your family by weaning off. You gave lots of great tips for other moms! I was never able to breastfeed because my daughter has a lot of medical issues (she was in the NICU for 11 months!) and has a trach and ventilator. So she got donor milk the first few days until I was able to pump enough for her, then I continued pumping (while working full time) for 5 1/2 months until she needed to be switched to a special soy formula. I also used the lettuce leaf and tight bras method and was able to “dry up” within a week. I was able to get so much more sleep after that, which helped with my moods! :)

  52. Eileen Creutz

    I’ve been reading your blog for years and just had my first baby back in April. I can’t tell you how many times I referenced your blog during these first three months to help get me through hard times and just find answers. I so appreciate your honesty even though it was probably scary to out yourself out there. Just know it helped one new mom get through some tough times!

  53. Me

    I’m not normally compelled to leave comments (though I’ve followed you for ages), but I wanted to say thank you for posting this. It’s so personal to each person, and it’s pretty brave putting yourself out there – so yeh, thank you for sharing x

  54. This post is me right now. I had breast cancer twice and many miscarriages and a still birth to get my 2 rainbow babies but feeding them was the one thing my body instinctively did right.

    My Humphrey is now over 2 and still drinks from mama it is tiring but I know he is my last baby and I am struggling to let it go despite it being bittersweet. I am so torn your post really hit on a lots of my thoughts and enemotions