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happy national breastfeeding month! since we’re right smack in the middle of it, i thought this might be a great time to share some of my biggest takeaways and tips i’ve gathered over the years to hopefully help anyone who is in a similar boat! i know that this sort of topic can sometimes feel controversial, but i really really hope my words don’t contribute to that whatsoever. while i have had a very positive experience with breastfeeding, i really believe that “fed is best” and finding whatever works best for you and your little one is what is most important!  i want to share my insight because i do wish when i started out with my journey of feeding my babies, that there would have been better resources available online in regards to hearing or reading people’s specific experiences with it all. so i hope this might be helpful for anyone starting out!

a little bit about my experience with breastfeeding… i have breastfed all of my kiddos, and actually breastfed eleanor during my pregnancy with samson. i consulted a few doctors about it at the time, and in my situation, it was totally fine. i ended up continuing to nurse her after samson’s arrival (since they are just 16 months apart), and loved those years of nursing both samson and eleanor simultaneously. by the time conrad was born, both of my older ones were weaned and it was a very special experience nursing only conrad for a couple years. and now, i am currently in the midst of exclusively breastfeeding both of my baby girls and figuring out the whole tandem twin nursing thing! more on that later.

the biggest and most important piece of wisdom i could ever share when it comes to breastfeeding, is to find yourself a big support system as you start out. during those first hours and days in the hospital with baby eleanor, i had the most incredible lactation consultant coming into my hospital room sometimes twice a day to check in on me, help me figure out the best positioning for me and my new baby girl and encouraged me to keep trying in the most gentle and non-judgemental ways when i grew frustrated or it felt difficult. before eleanor’s birth, i had read a couple of breastfeeding books and signed up for a la leche league in my area, but i was still a hot mess when it came to feeding, and felt a lot of pressure about it all from outside sources which added to my stress of not really knowing what i was doing. this lactation consultant was seriously one the best things that ever happened to me when it comes to my birth experiences, because she was so calm and gentle and patient and encouraging, i really credit all these years of breastfeeding my babies to her.  she made a really wonderful impact on those first days starting out, and i’m so thankful. over the years, i have unfortunatelty met a few people in hospital settings that aren’t encouraging or kind in the way they offer feedback or advice (straight up had a male pediatrician come in once as i was feeding one of my babies and say, “you’re doing it wrong.” when josh came back into the room a little later and i told him what happened he laughed and was like, you should have handed the baby over and been like, “oh sorry. will you demonstrate how i’m supposed to be doing it?” ;) but in the moment i actually felt very small and like i actually was doing it wrong (for the record, i don’t think there is only one position to hold a baby and feed. if you’re comfortable, they are comfortable, the latch is great and all are safe, you’re doing great.) between that first lactation consultant and a very supportive husband, as well as friends who have shared insight along the way, it’s been easier and easier to figure this thing out over the years and enjoy the experience with my babies. if your hosptial doesn’t offer a lactation consultant, you can ask for a nurse that specializes in breastfeeding to come in and help you during those first few days. it can be tricky because sometimes the milk doesn’t come in immediately (mine came in several days later with some of my babies), but you can still perfect the latch and positioning in the meantime and in my experience, my babies have been fine waiting for the milk. another thing i want to point out here is to make sure your baby’s mouth and tongue are checked by more than one doctor or nurse during your hospital stay. if they are at all tongue-tied, that can often affect you and your baby’s experience in a negative way from the very beginning, so it’s best to have that taken care of straightaway.

another important tip is to just keep practicing. i was so awkward those first many months trying to find the best position, especially when in public and not wanting to flash anyone! but with a lot of practice, i have found which positions work best for me and how to feed my babies discreetly while walking, being in public, at night… but give it time and be kind to yourself while you do so. finding your groove for nursing doesn’t just happen overnight! i finally found over time that my favorite breastfeeding position is to lie on my side. i’m able to not tense my back and relax my shoulders this way, and also it’s just really nice when you’re feeling exhausted. :)

drink all the water and then drink more water, too.  i carry a ginormous insulated cup with me everywhere in our apartment and then have a big insulated canteen for when i am out. it’s amazing to see how quickly my milk supply might go down if i haven’t been keeping up with my fluids for the day. especially nursing the twins. i have found i drink much more water if i use a straw, so i have a couple of stainless steel straws i use with all of my cups now, and it has made a big difference.

after a few weeks of successful breastfeeding, try to pump milk and introduce a bottle to your baby in addition to the breast. eleanor never took a bottle, and looking back, i think she would have if i’d have tried a few different kinds. what i didn’t realize at the time of introducing a bottle to her, was that each bottle nipple is just as different as each breast nipple, and i had bought a bottle that i thought was super “cute”, but the nipple was nothing like mine and she was very confused trying to latch on and drink. i never tried another, because i just didn’t realize there were other kinds and options at the time. i was super naive and unaware. while i loved my time breastfeeding her, i couldn’t ever really leave her during those first 6 months, since her only food source was me. if you can pump breastmilk and introduce a bottle, it really does make a difference having that mobility of being able to pump and have someone else feed them on occasion through a bottle. right now with the twins, i am using a double breast pump and trying to pump once a week so they continue to take a bottle well for josh on occasion and i can go out for a few hours or be with my other kids. it’s a serious game changer with breastfeeding, and i highly recommend.

savor it. take time to just sit and look at your beautiful baby while feeding them! this one might sound weird at first, like of course you’re doing that! but also, sometimes i find that when i’m feeding my baby girls, it’s my time to grab my phone and scroll through instagram or answer emails and just not be present at all. and the other day, i was on my phone while both were nursing and i looked down and realized both of my baby girls were actually looking directly at me while eating, and i was like, “shoot! i am missing this incredible moment!” and some of my best memories feeding all of my kids over the years are when they are eating and look up at you and start to smile and all that milk just starts to fall everywhere but you don’t mind it because it’s the sweetest moment of bonding ever and you can hardly take it! so yeah, put the phone or book or whatever down sometimes and just talk to them or sing to them or look at them while they are there with you.

when you’re in public and want to forgo the nursing blankets and covers but still be discreet, do the double shirt trick. i like to wear a very thin and tight tank under my shirt or dress or whatever i’m wearing. i’ll tuck it into my pants and this way, when i need to pull up my top shirt, my stomach is still covered and i’m not flashing it to the world. your baby’s head usually will always cover the area that needs to be covered anyway! but honestly you just have to try a few different ways out and see what you like most. there is nothing wrong with using a nursing cover, doing the double shirt trick, or just pulling out the boob and feeding your baby! i have realized over the years that people around me really aren’t paying attention and they really don’t care. once you realize this, it makes feeding your baby anywhere so much easier and enjoyable.

for twins…. what i’ve found most helpful when it comes to nursing my baby girls this round, is to keep them on the same schedule. especially in the night. i try to always feed them both at the same time so to maximize our own sleep at night. one of my girls eats really quickly and the other likes to take her time, so sometimes it doesn’t always work out like a dream, but most nights, it’s been successful. i also have lived for my tandem nursing pillow and don’t know how i’d have done those first few weeks of feeding without it when they are so fragile and tiny. i am able to have both my hands free to help position their heads and scoot them up or down or closer or whatever this way, and it makes a big difference. but i haven’t figured out how to tandem nurse them when i’m out very well, because i’m usually topless at home when i do it. :0 so when we’re out, i just nurse them one at a time right now. hopefully once they are a little bigger and can prop themselves up to feed, i’ll be able to nurse them together anywhere.

but the biggest thing here is to just trust yourself and find the best method for you and your babies! everyone’s situation and ideal and experience is so very different, and these tips are just from my own learning over the years. if you have any advice for breastfeeding, please share in the comments!  i hope this is helpful for anyone in the midst of figuring it out!

  1. I wanted to add that there is no shame in using a breast shield. I couldn’t nurse my kids without one due to flat nipples.Pumping exclusively dries me up. Once I realized I could just use a nipple shield, I nursed my kids for 2 years. I had to use it for each feeding. And it ended up being just the trick for me.

  2. valeria

    Very soon I ll be nursing again… hope to be a beautiful experience like my firt one… I can t wait !!!! You are amazing Naomi… really !

  3. Eleanor

    Breastfeeding my son as I read this post! Thank you for sharing your experience & wisdom! I’m using my MyBrestFriend pillow as we speak & also love it. Water bottle with a flip up straw is my choice for hydration, easy to use with one hand! Keep up the hard work, mama!

  4. Joy

    Love this! Such important and practical info. I had a breastfeeding support group just down the street when my baby was a newborn and it was a god-send! There are so many myths floating around about breastfeeding and so much anxiety tied to it that I’ve found a lot of my friends have given up because they thought they weren’t making enough milk, etc. (Or like you said, they worried so much about their milk taking several days to come in). Thanks for this!

  5. Katie

    Thank you for the support. Go breastfeeding! The other things I’d throw out there is to think about a postpartum doula or lactation consultant as/if you need one. A year into my 2 years nursing my daughter, her latch changed, and we both needed a refresher and some new strategies. That consultation made all the difference. Also, you said it, but it can’t be restated enough. Go easy on yourself, be proud of yourself if you are able to nurse at all, and as you said, fed is best, so if you aren’t able to nurse or not for long, don’t worry. The stress is not worth it and no matter what, you are already working hard to love and care for your baby(ies)! Go, mamas and support people of mamas!

  6. Trish O

    I loved nursing my kids. Funny, each one was such a different nursing relationship (just like each kid is so different). So glad i did it

  7. Jenessa Fairbourn

    I love this so much. Breastfeeding did not come easy for me with my first but after a few weeks we figured it out and I nursed him for 15 months! Now number two will be joining us in a few weeks and I can’t wait to nurse again! Did you, or any other mamas reading this comment, find it easier with each baby or is it a learning curve with each?

  8. Lisa

    I also wanted to add that there is no shame in offering formula when you are out of frozen breastmilk and you’re in a pinch…even if you want to EBF. I had thrush infection on and off for 6 weeks so I had to throw out ALL of my frozen breastmilk I had saved (devastating haha). Then I felt like I had to pump a ton to get a frozen supply before I could ever leave my baby with my husband. Eventually I had to give my baby some formula once and awhile when my husband had him and I wish I had realized that this was ok sooner.

  9. Allie

    You are super mom for sure! Your girls are precious. I loved the part about putting your phone down. I’m so guilty of this and am trying to be better. Side lying totally saved my sanity with my first and my new babe born just a few weeks after your girls likes it sometimes now, too, thankfully. Breastfeeding is hard work, but so worth it, even when there are struggles. I wish you the best on this journey!

  10. I love LOVE nursing and love seeing you post so positively about it!

    xo, brittany
    nursing friendly tops are on my blog today!

  11. Priscilla

    Thanks for sharing.

  12. Michelle

    Great post and tips. I like your term “fed is best.” There is SO much judging that happens around this issue and so often, due to the guilt we women place on ourselves, we often can be the most unkind to one another. The only thing I’d add is that every baby is different. Just because a mom has/doesn’t have success nursing one child, doesn’t mean it won’t be different with another child. I nursed all four of my children but all four experiences were vastly different, for different reasons with each one. So, ultimately, find what works for you and your specific child and be flexible. :)

    Also, yes and high fives to your remark about checking for tongue and lip ties. One of mine was severely tongue tied and no doctor or nurse in the hospital noticed. But a lactation consultant at our pediatrician found it within seconds. She was not the kindest or most supportive consultant I ever worked with, but for that act alone, she was a game changer for that child who desperately wanted to nurse. So, agreed with you on that point. If the latch on isn’t working, definitely have your child’s mouth checked (sometimes it’s a tissue-tie problem, sometimes a high palate can affect things, or sometimes it’s something else).

  13. Pam

    I didn’t nurse my first two sons because of lack of support, from my spouse. He didn’t want me to. This was almost 30 years ago, not as common as it is now. Then with my third and fourth I did it anyway. I noticed the benefits between both experiences. My oldest two were sick more and spent time in the hospital with bronchitis and pneumonia. The last two didn’t get sick, never visited the hospital for an illness. If I had to do it again, I would have breastfed all my son’s.

  14. Lucy R

    Totally agree with the shield comment above! First time didn’t work out due to excruciating pain from an undetected tongue tie and the midwives seemed to frown upon shields. Second time around I was armed with past experience and knowledge and took shields to the hospital just in case. And what do you know? Same pain, same problem! 11 weeks later and little one decided she didn’t want to use the shields anymore and 11 months in and we’re still going strong!!

    Naomi, did any of your babes wake to comfort feed in the night? We bedshare as little one just wouldn’t settle in a cot but now I’m a slave to the 40-minute to 2-hourly wakes to settle with boob… mama is TIRED!!! Any advice so gratefully received <3 xxx

  15. Evie

    Nursing twins is amazing and hard. Go, mama! Yesterday was my last day breastfeeding my twins after 3 years and 3 months!! When they were little and I wanted to breastfeed in public sometimes I’d bring the twin nursing pillow with me (which seems funny to me now but was really helpful then.). 😄

  16. Tily

    This is such a great article and it emphasizes exactly what everyone seema to forget.. There is no 1 right way to do things. I nursed my son for 2 and a half years with a nipple shield. Could not get rid of it but it didn’t stop us from enjoying the experience. What helped my milk supply and his tummy was a good lactation tea. I used to drink at least 1 cup for a year i think. Never had colics or issues with flow etc. Just try. Patience makes perfect :) and there is nothing sweeter than the milky smiles.

  17. Hannah

    So heartwarming to read! Love hearing about other mama’s breastfeeding experience! I can’t wait to start my journey next week when the little man is here!!


  18. Caroline

    Thank you so much for mentioning the double shirt trick! As I read it, a light bulb popped on! I never felt comfortable breast feeding in public or just around other people with my first baby (much to my personal shame and disappointment). I always felt like I was showing all my stomach and could never figure it out. But, two shirts! Duh! I’m pregnant with my second and can not wait to try it this time around. Thank you!

  19. Liz

    My first baby is now 10 weeks old and I breast-feed him. Breast-feeding has been a roller coaster for me, including a bout of mastitis which landed me in the hospital for a few days, and I feel that it was a lot harder for me than I was expecting. I think I can now say that we are finally getting the hang of it. The fact that you are breast-feeding twins gives me the motivation to keep going with my baby! I am actually a twin and since having my own baby my appreciation for my mother, who raised us as a single mom, has grown so much more! Now I like the sound of the double shirt trick, but I was wondering, do you use a nursing tank? Or do you just pull down the top of a regular tank to nurse?

  20. Dee

    Great post. I’m a committed bf to my kids too but goodness it is hard in the beginning. I honestly found it more painful than labour. I second the breast shield tip above -a lifesaver if you get cracked nibbles- and I can honestly say it didn’t hurt the bonding one bit so don’t listen to that rubbish new moms! I also wanted to give a shout out to those big plastic cups with the lid and a straw attached, I found the hormone changes made me super clumsy in the first few weeks and there’s only so many times you can knock your drink over before you need one of those cups in your life. The other thing I didn’t know about which I really loved were sleep bras (like a cotton crop top thing you might have worn as a young teenager) keep the breast pads in place, bit of support for the engorgement phase, but comfy and not too hot.

  21. Caitlin

    Thank you so much Taza! I will very soon be attempting to breastfeed for the first time 🙌🏻. I am expecting twin boys come November and have found this to be a super helpful (and full of little gems and tidbits) that I’m hoping will make my experience just a little bit easier. Thank you Taza for sharing your experience, especially about your first few days in hospital. I have found it to be super insightful 😊

  22. Christina

    Your description of some of your favorite moments being when your babies are eating and look up at you and smile made me cry! I loved those moments too. My baby is 15 months and we weaned this summer which was absolutely the right time for both of us but sometimes I miss it so much! Thank you for sharing your experience

  23. Renske

    Best advice I got:
    Never quit on a bad day.
    Those first three months were hard!

  24. binysworld

    very much agree about the lactation consultant – truly she guided me with so much wisdom – her advice was invaluable. I was lucky enough to have an on call consultant included in my husbands insurance plan! what a blessing– do not underestimate the care that a lactation consultant can provide!

  25. Karen

    Other thing to point out is if nursing doesn’t work out, exclusive pumping can be an option. Both of my kids were jaundiced so we had to introduce a bottle early while my milk came in. They ended up rejecting the breast much to my dismay. I ended up exclusively pumping for a year and a half for both kids. I had so much discouragement from nurses who were sure I would dry up. Not the case! It’s possible to have a full supply from pumping. It just takes work.

  26. Lauren

    I loved reading this! Nursing my babies has been such a wonderful experience for me, and such a welcome way to slow down and sit with each of my kiddos. I loved retreating to a private place for some quiet moments when family was over in the early days, and I was in need of a break.

    My number one tip for new moms is to breathe and relax! My first was in the NICU (only 4 days) so I really had no clue what I was doing in my first days home from the hospital. I turned on a movie (Titanic – long intentionally) and had my husband set me up with my favorite snacks and water. I sat in a dark room topless and just tried to nurse nurse nurse. My husband was on call if I needed anything, but I mostly just wanted a private, relaxed moment to figure it out! Of course LLL and LCs are great resources, but I worry that our culture never gives Mom a moment to figure things out.

    I would love to know your favorite nursing friendly layering tanks. I’m always on the hunt for shirts with a neck stretchy enough to nurse the that holds its shape! I frequently nurse in public (very lucky to live in a place where that’s a-okay), and I go through tank tops like crazy!

  27. Cristina Solivan

    Taza did any of your children have tongue tied issues or mouth problem and if so how did you get around it to breastfeed? Both my girls were tongue tied:( and now I’m pregnant hoping this one isn’t

  28. Jessica

    1. Kellymom.com is an EXCELLENT resource for evidence-based breastfeeding information.

    2. while pregnant, ask if your hospital is breastfeeding friendly and what supports you’ll have after you deliver!

    3. while pregnant, look into lactation consultant options for after you deliver. Our amazing hospital (in Seattle) has lactation walk-in groups for new moms — they weigh baby, answer questions, check latch, etc.

    4. Google: “hands-on feeding”! It’s amazing!

    5. Worry less about low supply! Of course it can happen, but it’s much less likely that your supply is low and more likely that (a) baby is eating more bc she’s going through a growth spurt and (b) people’s voices telling you you’re doing it wrong are getting in your head.

    6. Act in confidence, not out of fear — no matter what you choose, BF or bottle or formula, do it with information and confidence. Don’t feel afraid — if you’re unsure, gather more data. As more doctors. Call your local la leche league.

    Finally, if someone tells you something that doesn’t sound quite right, look it up or ask your doctor! One of my friends said that at her hospital (in SF) they told her that her milk wouldn’t come in for a few days, so she NEEDED to do formula (they never mentioned colostrum!!). She had no idea and handed over the baby to get his formula bottles. This sounded so wrong to me (like how did humans survive past infancy before formula), but I didn’t have the information to help her. (Of course sometimes you need to supplement early, this piece of information is just untrue for most moms.)

  29. Mom of two

    Thank you for sharing.
    I’m one of the mama’s that they second child had a tongue tie. He wouldn’ latch (posterior tongue tie) and was dropping weight quickly. Our first pediatrician told me my milk supply must be low she’s told me to drink more water and supplement with formula (that’s she’s gave me a sample of) when I asked about his tongue she told me that his tie was so minor that it wouldn’t bother his relationship with nursing. He also wouldn’t take a bottle. So I made an appt with a new pediatrician. She’s told me we needed to see an pediatric oral surgeon because my sons tongue tie was tight and thick. We saw the oral surgeon. He said it was an extreme tie becase he couldn’t lift his tongue and the tie was flat. In 7 minutes he released the tie. We worked in nursing for awhile . He has nurses but like a pro since releasing the tie and practicing. I wanted to share our story of having to see two drs before we found our answer. Also, my son has torticallu his neck muscle is super tight on one side. Stretches are good for him.

  30. Sharon

    I agree totally about the support system. With my first I had trouble getting him to latch. Milk would spray him in the faces he would cry, I would cry. My husband knew I would be stubborn about getting help so he came into the room and said I made you an appt with the lactation consultant at the hospital in 30 min (which I could see from my house). She honestly didn’t even do that much aside from calmly and kindly say I had plenty of milk and minor changes in the babies position. Her reassurance helped calm me down and I went on to nurse him for a year and then later his baby sister and baby brother for a year each. Without the support of my husband and that lactation consultant I don’t know if that would have happened.

  31. Alex Ford

    All amazing advice!! What helped my supply tremendously too (along with SO. MUCH. WATER) were fennel capsules and Mother’s Milk Tea (just bought from Amazon). Also, eating specifically oatmeal everyday (I did as my “second lunch”) :).

  32. I loved reading your experience with breastfeeding. I totally feel you on finding your groove over time and that in public in the city most people don’t even notice.

    Question for you: you mentioned you prefer to lie on your side but also mentioned that you like feeding them both at once – have you found a way to lay and feed at the same time or did you just do that with your babies one at a time?

  33. Mary

    Another version of the two shirt trick is to keep your maternity pants around a little longer. It really does help to have that fabric covering up your stomach area.

  34. Becca

    I’m due with twins anyday, and I’m wondering if you have a suggestion for best app to track the twins’ nursing schedule. In nursing my older kiddos, I could never remember which side I nursed the baby on last, etc. and I know it helps keep supply up to switch. Do you start with your twins on the different side each time? Also, how does it work to get hat first supply of pumped milk? I can see how you’d pump while your husband was watching the twins & could save that for next time, but how do you get that first couple of bottles worth? Do you just pump in between feedings of the twins for a couple of times until you have enough for those first couple of bottles?

  35. Qmy

    Great tips and insights Naomi! Thanks for mentioning checking for tues, this really impacted on breastfeeding journey. Awareness helps xxxx

  36. Tatiana

    I swear by doctor Jack Newman’s website https://ibconline.ca/information-sheets/
    His videos tought me how to tell whether my baby is drinking or just nibbling at the breast, and his advice guided me through all hurdles. My four year old is just weaning herself and i’m so grateful for that journey. I recently completed my education as lactation consultant, hoping to help other women on their breastfeeding journey.

  37. Amy V

    Thanks for sharing, this is definitely a subject that isn’t covered enough and the potential pitfalls too! I breastfed my son for 10 weeks then had to switch to formula as my supply was dwindling due to stress and worry about my diet possibly contributing to his colic and reflux. Looking back, it’s easy to think I maybe could have dug deep and kept trying but my mental wellbeing was not the greatest at the time. I don’t feed bad for bottle feeding my boy, like you say “fed is best” but there is a stigma around it here in New Zealand, there’s a huge pro-breastfeeding movement and you need to sign a lot of forms and basically beg nurses to get your hands on formula if in their care.
    We hope to have another baby and I’m already nervous about trying to breastfeed again. I never grasped pumping, when are you meant to do it when newborns feed so often? There was a lot of leakage the first weeks as well, it became quite demoralising as it was constant and knocked my confidence in trying to get out of the house. Would love to hear any tips you may have on managing milk supply!

  38. Kylee

    Love your thoughts! I’ve nursed all 4 of my boys, still nursing the lil one, almost 2. First time was hard! I always tell new moms the fursyb6 weeks is the hardest part! Things constantly change each month but those first 6 weeks build your routine and confidence for sure. With my first I was always heading to the LLL book The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding when I had questions or concerns. ❤️

  39. Veronica

    Great post and interesting comments. I’m nursing my 9 month old but it took us about 4 months to get feeding established properly. It was so hard in the beginning, she was sleepy and jaundiced and we actually had to go back to hospital on day 5 because she had lost too much weight. The paediatrician immediately prescribed formula every 3 hours and I was devastated. After a lot of effort, 4 lactation consultants, fenugreek, nursing tea, oatmeal, hospital grade breast pump, 2 cranial osteopaths and a course of domperidone, attending many La Leche League meetings (which were wonderful) plus trying and trying and trying to latch her comfortably we finally got there. Now feeding is easy and we both love it. So (in my experience) it is not true that you cannot get them back to the breast if they have been bottle fed.

  40. Mindy

    This post was perfect timing for me. I’m bf my first and was just telling my sweet-lil’-mama that you have been such an inspiration on discreetly bf in public. I was telling her that I wanted to know your tricks and then this post popped up! What timing!!
    I would love to know what tanks you use for layering. The ones I have in hand don’t seem to have a stretchy enough top to bring down.
    Thanks a million!

  41. Melanie

    Lots of comments on this one which is great! I also wanted to add that I just weaned my little one and my hormones went nuts. I wanted to let people know that you aren’t crazy, you might have a spout of depression afterwards. The bond that you had, and the hormones that are adjusting levels might make some feel bad. I had to take several days off of work during the process, but it gets better and you aren’t alone! Breastfeeding is a touchy subject for some and adding the word depressed. Yesh. Thanks for your honesty!

  42. Alida

    What a great post Taza! I nearly gave up on breastfeeding early on as the hospital staff gave my baby a bottle during the first night and he then got confused about feeding. I had to express and feed him from a cup while he was only a few days old (they can!) Feeding was also very painful in the first six weeks. But I also had a wonderful LaLeache consultant who encouraged me and gave me great advice like to feed a lot to increase my supply . (Don’t listen to old generation ladies telling you that you don’t have enough milk. It is very rare that this happens.) Something that worked well for me too was to lie down, tummy to tummy and feed, as this causes much less strain. I even did this when we were out and about, finding fitting rooms at clothing stores that had a big enough seating space to lie down (Woolies). The happy ending to this story is that with both my babies the pain went away after 6 weeks and I exclusively fed for the first 6 months, and continued breastfeeding till 18 months for both. So healthy for them, and much easier than bottles. If you have that choice at all fight to make it happen. I’m always so glad I did, but also perfectly agree that whatever is the best you can do, even if it means bottle feeding because it is less stress on you or your baby, then that is your best.

  43. Shelley

    I would love to hear more about your experience with nursing while pregnant and tandem nursing if you would be open to talking about it. In the same boat!