there were several moments over the weekend where i practiced chanting to myself a phrase a girlfriend of mine, who is a mother of two and also an exceptional human being, taught me last week.
it goes like this:
this is not an emergency.
and it’s kind of hysterical to think about saying to yourself, but honestly, i used it like 12 times on saturday alone. and seriously, it’s genius.
because, there are several moments over the course of a day where i’m completely frazzled by life and when my kids are being just a tad bit naughty during those moments it’s my instinct to want to raise my voice and freak out sometimes. but more often than not, their mistakes aren’t malicious or even intentional in anyway. they are little. they are curious. sometimes (all the time) they spill things. or just can’t yet comprehend why we must do things a certain way (like not crossing the street at a red light, or wearing a coat when it’s cold outside.) when i pause and kneel down to explain, or calmly ask for their help to clean up the spilled water or whatever it is, and not raise my voice before i go about trying to fix whatever, it’s amazing the difference it makes in our day.
and so, during several little mishaps that felt part annoying and part intentional and every part frustrating when it comes to kids and patience and mothering and life, i worked on biting my tongue, on pausing and chanting to myself, “this is not an emergency.”
it didn’t always work magic, but more often than not, it absolutely completely did. and it was amazing.
may you chant with me in the coming week, or share your own personal mantras and chants that get you through your own weeks with me below. because I AM ALL EARS when it comes to trying out new tips and tricks with this stuff. i love learning from the pros.
and also, wishing you an emergency free day! week! life! ;)