here’s to a good day, and an even better weekend!

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hi there! i hope you had a great week and are about to have an even better weekend. i’m sure crossing my fingers for one.  to be honest, the last few days have been on the rougher side for me.  i haven’t been sleeping well at night, and that in and of itself is a large part. but also because i have been allowing feelings of inadequacy to creep into my life. there is always room for bettering oneself, but i feel like sometimes i am barely keeping up with my day to day to even get to that list of things to improve. you know? “survival” mode. sometimes i swear i just can’t even get out of survival mode!

i want to be the best wife and mother and friend and sister and daughter that i am capable of being. i want to take proper care of myself and my family. i want to have a home that has a spirit and energy of love and peace. one that is on the cleaner side (not crazy clean- but beds made, no cheerios on the floor kind of clean. baby steps.) i want time to finish projects that i have started that are important to me. i want to find more time for service, less time getting caught up in stupid drama that seriously should not even be going on. i want to read more parenting books. i want to finish the parenting books i started over a year ago. i don’t want to let stupid little things that i have no control over get under my skin.  i don’t want to let things go bad in my fridge. i want to exercise more. i want to use that juicer we invested in weeks ago and still haven’t used. i want to listen to my girlfriends and compliment them more. i want to never lose my keys again (they are lost somewhere in the apartment right now. of course. me and those freaking keys, man!)

i’m trying to make changes so i can be and do these things. little changes, nothing big yet. i don’t want to set myself up for complete failure. ;) little things like straightening up the house before we leave each morning so we come home to a clean one. or setting aside an hour each saturday morning to just read my parenting books. or only go grocery shopping with a list and meal plan in mind so nothing goes bad in my fridge. or look for the positive things in friends and others and verbalize it to them rather than just think it. little steps…but we’ll get there.  i’m planning to check in with myself each sunday night through the remainder of the year and see where i thrived and what needs more work each week.  life is too short to let some silly feelings of inadequacy take over.

so this is where i’m at.  coming to realizations, making changes, trying to live life better.  please wish me luck. i wish you luck, too! support! we all need more of that, don’t we? here we go. have a great one!

  1. Patricia

    Wow Naomi! You hit the nail on the head! Being a mom to little ones is incredibly time consuming! I can relate to almost all of what you said! I wish you the best of luck:) Sometimes don’t forget to realize all the great that you do! In the end those kiddos and husband love you for just the way you are. Have a great weekend!

  2. Rebekah

    We all just need to do a little yoga and buy some good smelling candles to get us feelin so good in this weather!

  3. Rebekah

    Just doing a little bit of cleaning each day , just one thing extra has made my life feel much more organized. Even if it’s just ”today i’m gonna grab all of the cups on my bedside table and put them next to the sink”

    HarvestSouth.squarespace.com

  4. Jessie

    I know exactly how you’re feeling! In fact, i wrote a whole post about it a few weeks ago here: http://www.bronandjessie.blogspot.com/2013/08/change-for-better.html

    Funny thing is as I was writing it, I was struck with a kind of epiphany: I needed to include Christ. Christ is the catalyst for good change. As I have tried to include Him in my goals, my goals have changed a little bit but I am more relaxed and happy.

    I sincerely hope the same for you!

  5. Ash

    amen. amen. amen.

    Are all moms in the universe having the same kind of week/feelings of inadequacy OR WHAT?! Girl, I hear ya.

    Isn’t the fact that we aren’t alone in this thing we call motherhood pretty comforting? That’s how you make me feel when I read your blog – so thank you. Thank you for being honest. Thank you for being real. For posting about beautiful moments. And about hard ones. THIS.IS.LIFE.

    And on another note, there is a Christian writer by the name of Ann Voskamp who I think you would really enjoy reading. She is so big on thanking God for every moment (because really, every moment of our precious lives is a GIFT). She has taught me (although I am a huge work in process) to see the good in even the most mundane of moments. I ready her blog daily: http://www.aholyexperience.com Check it out if you’re interested :) Good for the soul.

    Thanks, Naomi. Have a great weekend!

  6. Bethany

    Hello,
    I discovered your blog through my daughter, who is a young mama like you.
    She has a friend who is a very popular blogger.Once that blogger decided to just live her life without worrying about whether her activities would produce blog content, she was much more at ease.
    So my unsolicited advice to you is to slow down. We aren’t going anywhere. Take care of yourself and your children and everything honestly will fall into place. Not all posts need to be happy and shiny and about events. That’s just so unrealistic. Who lives like that? No one! Okay, maybe Gweneth Paltrow.
    I bet your readers will find you even more relatable if you give us a peek into your less than perfect world than a life of earlyorning cronut lines Kate Spade sponsored shopping trips. I know I would!
    I hope you have a lovely weekend with that beautiful family of yours! Chin up now, as my mum would say!

  7. Christina

    Sending you feelings of self acceptance. It is so hard to see so much “perfection” everywhere and not let it seep into our hearts and minds. Try to remember you are exactly as you were intended to be in this very moment. (This is just as much a reminder to myself). Channel that little girl with her cute curly hair yelling self affirmations in the mirror.

  8. sandra

    As I was reading your blog post and remembering so well “those” days (my kids are 13, 11, and 6 now! hallelujah!) all I could think about and actually said aloud was, “I just wanna eat a cronut.”

    Give yourself grace. It’s all going to be good.

  9. Hannah

    Ahh such is motherhood right?! You’re doing a wonderful job! You love, feel loved, and your littles know they’re loved. But making mental notes of improvements always help me too!

    2 books I’ve been telling everyone and their mamas about that you might like also
    -give them grace (parenting book)
    -glimpses of grace (for your stay-at-home mom self)

    They helped me see the beauty in the day to day of things. And see the majesty in the mundane. Seriously, they’re both so good! So if you find some time, give them a try!

  10. Heather

    Awesome post! I think all of us mama’s out there can always do better or strive to do better in these areas. I love the idea of checking in with yourself every Sunday night and see where you’re at. I might need to do this as well! My husband is reading Brain Rules for Baby and is getting a lot out of it. Just a thought! :)

    http://www.seashellsandeggshells.blogspot.com

  11. Aslyn

    You nailed my last three days right on the head! Hope everything starts looking up for you!

  12. Briseidy

    so inspirational! good luck, I’m sure you’ll succeed :)
    have a great weekend!

  13. Malisams

    I so hear you. This parenting gig is super hard work, and it’s a rare day when I feel like I’m actually “nailing it.” And I only have one! You have two. Some mamas have 3+! I think we’d all benefit from trying to just celebrate the little accomplishments — I washed, folded, AND put away a single load of laundry! CAN I GET A WHAT WHAT?! — and know that you’re doing the best you can. We all are. It’s just really hard sometimes. But I don’t think anyone who follows this blog would ever, EVER say that you’re not doing a great job with those adorable, clearly well-taken care of, loved, well-adjusted, happy, silly littles. We ALL have bad/hard/total fail days. We’re human. You’re doing awesome. :) I do think it’s super important to try to make time for yourself, though…so definitely try to carve out time for the reading or crafting you want to do. I almost think that’s harder than parenting itself, sometimes…but it’s so important. Good luck! (TO US ALL. haha.)

  14. Cams

    I can get so down on myself…and frustrated at times when I realize I am no where near where I’d like to be…or…the days when I barely get anything done. It helps to just breathe and have cuddle time. That’s all I’ve got. :) Cheers.

  15. Jenn I.

    I have followed you blog for a couple of years now, and you have always seemed like Super Mom. You are a true inspiration to me and my little ones. I just want to thank you for all that you do and stick in there!

  16. maggie

    If anyone can make positive changes in their life, it’s you! You are always such a source of inspiration.

  17. Kati

    We all struggle to be Supper Mom/Wife/Student/Friend/Whatever. It’s almost comforting to hear that someone whose life I admire has similarities to mine.

    I can only offer one piece of advice… audible.com. It’s $15 a month and you can download books right on your phone. If the babies are napping and you’re washing dishes, cleaning up, eating, etc you can just pop your ear buds in and listen. That way books don’t have to only happen one hour a week.

    Good luck reaching your goals!

  18. Cintya

    Hang on there, don’t sweat the small stuff! I’m also in a very very tough situation right now, and sometimes I honestly want to throw in the towel and give up. However, when you have a handful of great people to support you and keep you sane, you get that energy back to keep trying. I wish you luck!

  19. Rachel R.

    You can do it!

  20. Misha

    Taza, this was such a wonderul and inspiring post! I think we all feel overwhelmed and inadequate at times and while I am sorry to hear that you are feeling like this, it is nice to hear that we all are sharing something similar. We are all in this together, right? Hang in there and good luck! You are right about the baby steps! Xo Misha

  21. Randi

    The Devil is hard at work lately. But lady, it is Friday. And the weekend calls for beautiful weather. Live it freely and soak it in! (Compliments galore is something I’ve worked hard at these past few years… and there’s no better feeling than making other people feel good about themselves! Such a fun/rewarding area to improve on! Now I’m on to tryin to be more thoughtful. I can’t remember the last time I sent a card to let someone know I was thinking about them… Just because.) To improving life, love, and friendships! Happy weekend!

  22. Alanna

    Small goals are the best way, I find! Little things like making a meal plan and shopping with a list make such a difference for me! Not only do they save me time at the store, but they also save me the headache of thinking of what’s for dinner that night. It’s not my favourite Sunday task, but I try to remind myself how much easier it makes things. (It’s still a work in progress sometimes!)

    It’s funny how some things become a habit after a while. Fitness has become a habit and I’m incredibly grateful for that. Putting my keys on the adorable Anthropologie initial hooks I bought is also a habit. Tidying up the kitchen so I wake up to a clean start is thankfully one too. Maybe someday cleaning the bathrooms will become a habit, but I doubt it. I dread that task more than any other!! good luck!

  23. wiktoria.

    oh, this was something i needed right now, thank you Taza! <3

  24. Hilty

    I used to feel like there was an end goal and if I just kept trying to reach this end goal life would suddenly be everything I wanted it to be. My house would be clean and decorated for a magazine spread. My work would be complete and super creative. I would never hold onto anger or resentment. I would exercise, eat healthy, etc. etc. After years of chasing after this end goal I’m coming to the realization that there is no end goal for everything to be perfect. I’m never going to reach a point to sit back and say “ahh” I have arrived. Instead I’m working slowly (so annoyingly slowly) at shifting and changing into someone I want to be and I’m working to find patience with that.

  25. Suzanne

    I’m not a mom (yet!), but this year on my birthday, I resolved to (1) say ‘no’ more often, and (2) remember that I am not responsible for everyone and everything! I think these are things that many of us struggle with – sometimes we just need a time out ;)

  26. Greta

    I hear you! I feel the same way a lot of the time – I have a beautiful one year old baby boy, a husband, a full time job as an antitrust lawyer, a household to take care of and friends that I wish I didn’t neglect that much. I feel there are not enough hours in the day. Recently I forget things, do stupid things without even noticing and feel that I’m doing a bad job on all fronts :(. Maybe we, modern women, are too hard on ourselves. I realise that it doesn’t really matter how tidy our homes are or how well we plan meals and social calendars. The thing that matters is to make time to enjoy our loving husbands and babies and to BE ourselves! So, Naomi, go easy on yourself and celebrate the baby steps you are taking! Best of luck to all of us!

  27. Jasmina

    Hey Naomi, I can relate to your post a ton. I appreciate the fact that you were able to not only acknowledge these things but also work on it every day for you. I read a book called The Happiness Project that could relate to this post and self-improving. I think you might find it to be of some help, because I did. Have a good weekend and good luck with your self improvement! :)

  28. rachel

    Taza,
    loved your blog post. we all fall into these ruts and i love your blog because you find the happy moments in life and focus on those (that’s what we all should be doing). But i particularly loved this post because you are so honest with yourself. its so brave of you to put out these feelings on the internet (maybe crazy, but so brave). post like these make you even more relatable. last thing i wanted to share was a quote from one of my classes (i’m in the master of social work program at BYU provo and we were just talking about helping clients who are in year long ruts and what the church says about it). Some of my favorites are:

    James E. Faust said: “God cannot only help us find a sublime and everlasting joy and contentment, but He can change us so that we can become heirs of the kingdom of God. This is really the recovery of the sacred within us. We have the authority in our beings to respond to challenges of life any way we choose. Thus we gain mastery in any circumstance” (Ensign May 1995, 63).

    Also by J.E.F. “Each new day that dawns can be a new day for us to begin to change. We can change our environment. We can change our lives by substituting new habits for old. We can mold our character and future by purer thoughts and nobler actions” (“The Power to Change,” Ensign, November 2007, 124)

    L. Tom Perry said“The almost universal gift everyone can develop is the creation of a pleasant disposition, an even temperament. It will open more doors for you and give you more opportunities than any other characteristic I can think of” (Ensign, November, 1998, 74).

    I love these. and you probably already knew all of that but we just need to remember the eternal perspective. hang in there, not that you need a cheerleader because i’m positive its just a rut… but for whatever its worth. you are good enough. and maybe someday you’ll find out that for someone else this blog made all the difference.

    thanks for your lovely, inspirational blog.

  29. Just know that you aren’t alone in this. I have been having those same gnawing feelings. But honestly, who does have it all figured out!? Who sets the standards!? I think just being aware of wanting to do better and be better is amazing.

  30. alexandra

    I’ve been going through the same exact things this past week//it’s nice to know i’m not alone// i’ve learned that asking for help makes a lot of difference instead of trying to balance it all by myself.

  31. I hear ya!!!!! I’m in the exact same place. We can do it!!!!

  32. Anna

    Thank you for this post! This post describes my life exactly. It is nice to know that there are others out there in the same place as me. I am always feeling like all the other mothers I am around have it so well put together. My husband and I are working on a lot of the things you mentioned together.

  33. Brenda

    Taza, when things seem tough just look at your beautiful family and have faith that everything will be alright. Baby steps are the key.

    BTW: under what settings do you usually use you dslr? your pictures are always amazing.

  34. It’s like I wrote this post. Everything about it. Things rotting in my fridge! GAH! I do do the clean before I leave the house to come home to a clean house bit though, and it is THE BEST THING EVER! Baby steps.

  35. Oh….sweet Naomi!!!! You just wrote out the words on my mind in your very own post. I JUST had this conversation with my husband the other day. Good luck to you!I feel like constantly being in survival mode really takes over and sucks up all of that time to do our “personal mommy things!” Some days I am like. “Maybe motherhood is just one big 18 year, survival mode stretch!?” ;) I want to be okay with that….I think. I couldn’t relate to you more on the grocery shopping debacle. whew! Have a great weekend, and I hope you get to just sit and read for your hour. xo!

  36. Shantel

    Oh my goodness Taza! You just wrote everything I have been feeling lately! (Welll, I am not writing any parenting books anytime soon) I struggle with so many of those same feelings! Starting projects and trying to find time to finish them… it’s not really finding the time but making it. Then there are all the things I want to start! I have two littles and work full time. Just hearing YOU put it out there makes me feel like I am not the only one. I look up to you and your parenting. You are beautiful and successful! Your family is so cute, and you take such good care of them!

    I’m glad that you wrote this, and that you are giving yourself baby steps! You are awesome!

  37. Blogs sure are great for finding accountability partners- I definitely need help with the “I need to stop letting things go bad in my fridge” I plan and plan, and somehow things still go bad…If you find any tips, send them my way please!

  38. Julie

    Hi Taza! Do you think you and Josh would ever move back to the Hill?

  39. Alicia

    You sound like a typical creative person, not always so organized! Same here! Anyhoo, I own my own business and have a teenage son, three dogs, 2 cats and a horse that I compete. I just subscribed to a cooking plan called “cook smarts”, they send me five meals a week and I can print out lists on my computer or look it up on my phone. My standards of cleanliness are high, but unmade beds don’t bother me. I also bulk cook, make enough for 2 large meals and freeze half. Two small children are pretty much 90% of your day, so maybe try to do your reading at night after they go to bed? Savor your time with your littles, blink your eyes and they will be teenagers holding their hands out for the car keys.

  40. Marta

    Taza you are such a wise woman! I adore you! Thank you for sharing it with us :-)

  41. Anna Almeida

    First of all, Naomi, I have to tell once more time that your kids are adorable, really really adorable, and they seem true friends! That’s not as easy to find as we wanted to. Second and last of all, the topic you reflected on this post, was the one that was and still is currently grinding my brain. As you said, sometimes I live in the “survival mode” until I can really plan what I want to do in the best way I can. And I’m struggling to improve myself, it’s necessary that we improve ourselves into better people, but at the same time we have to pay atention to the signs!,
    Anna

  42. Carol Tognon

    Taza, you are such a great person! And u have the best family ever!! I simply love ur little ones! Everytime I go to NY with my husband (we’re from Brazil) all I think about is seeing u guys on the street!! Please, don’t change!!!

  43. jovana

    oooh i hear you girl! good luck to us all! it is not easy being a wife and a mother and a housekeeper and a friend and a whole person separate from all of the above. dunno about you, but after my toddler is asleep i’m pretty much spent, and i feel like there is never enough time for everything that needs to be done, let alone the optional extra hobbies and interests.

    but we are all doing a good job and need to hang in there! thank you so much for this post, it’s such a relief to know that none of us are alone in this. as so many previous commenters said, you read my mind and it’s so encouraging to read all of these supportive comments. we can do this! baby steps!

  44. Jocelyn

    This is exactly what I needed to read today, thank you! Such wonderful words of motivation. It’s so easy to thing of the way we would like to be, the things we would like to be doing, the way we would like to act.. and not quite as easy to make it all become reality! Baby steps, though. You are a wonderful person, truly a role model to a lot of your readers! You have such a beautiful happy family, I am so thankful that you chose to share bits and pieces of your lives with us! <3

  45. PatyH

    I love that you can share your honest thoughts and at the same time be an inspiration for most of us, you are amazing young lady, even in your photos you can really appreciate that livid and loving soul of yours. I think we all have those kinds of moments we feel that we aren’t doing enough and the “survival mode” is pretty much on for me too and i’m not even a mom yet. And someday i just hope to be as half as a good momma and wife that you are, feeling inspired in the mid time
    Lots of love,

  46. Amanda

    I honestly think all women our age feel this way, or at least, I hope they do! Because I sure do and I want to be normal! I totally get it, lady, but by the looks of your beautiful family through this wonderful blog, it looks like you are doing great. And, you inspire me to be better day after day, so you’re definitely touching people!

  47. BriAnne

    I am moving past the crazy time of life you’re in, and I can completely relate. Its hard in those times to see all the good you as a mother do each day when the lists of “could do” keep growing. Everything has its time and season, and those sweet little ones grow up so fast whether or not the other things get done. Keep your head up, you are a fabulous mother.

  48. Tara

    Thank you for this post. I’m afraid I’ve never left a message before but I love to read your blog. Your photos are amazing and remind me to be thankful and happy with my two little boys. However, I have been feeling pretty much the same as you describe in this post lately, it’s nice to know I’m not alone as I don’t have anyone to share my feelings with. Good luck : )

  49. You are going to pull through Naomi. I find it best when I set up one goal a month, and then track it on a calendar. It usually takes 30 days to form a habit, and so by the next month I’m onto a new one. Good luck!

  50. Haley McCormick

    I sincerely hope that the feelings of inadequacy and things that get under your skin which you mentioned are not a result of your blog, and social media in general. Yes, some people are just mean and judgmental out there, I’ll give you that. However, I stumbled upon your blog waaay back when I was like the 500th follower, and have been a devoted reader ever since. I started out reading as a single college student and now am a happily married mama of a sweet 7 month old. I truly commend you for the shining example you set of m

  51. Haley McCormick

    Motherhood and

  52. Haley McCormick

    Shoot I keep hitting comment! Dumb phone ha. But you are an example of what motherhood and a happy family look like to so many out there. Especially in a world that increasingly de-values these things. I cannot help but think about all of the good that has come from your online presence these past few years. Don’t let others get you down, you are really a ROCKSTAR ;)

  53. Thanks for this post. I’m in the same boat and it’s nice to know that no one is perfect. We are all doing the best we can. Support is such a great word! Here’s to support!

  54. Nicki

    We obviously aren’t friends, but from one human being to another, you totally got this. Life is light and good and everything you want to make of it. Brimming with possibility and goodness, just like you. Those parenting books will be read in no time. And you will be complimenting without even noticing. And every day, even when you fail, you are doing the best you can and that is really all you can expect from yourself. You are enough. And you will just keep getting better and better as you aim higher and higher.

  55. Nicole

    People often tell me to not be so hard on myself. It’s hard to see for myself but I feel that for you. I wrote this in my journal today “Look for God in your difficult place and discover what He’s doing in and through you there.”

  56. Carrie

    Just read a fantastic book by Kate Northrup and she recommended the book, “It’s Hard to Make A Difference When You Can’t Find Your Keys: The Seven-Step Path to Becoming Truly Organized.” I immediately thought of her when I read your post.

    She said it’s a brilliant book that helps us show up fully as passionate, service-oriented, shiny happy people.

    I love that! And Kate is an absolute rockstar, so any book she recommends is on my list.

    xo

  57. michaela

    this is one of my favorite posts of yours so far. admire your vulnerability. we’ve all been there…most of us probably are there to some degree on most days. your honest words give others grace to not be totally put together…hope you can give yourself some of that grace, too!

    m @ two handfuls of

  58. I’ve been a fan of your blog for several years running, and had the joy of meeting you once at a mutual friend’s wedding (Claire), but this is the first time I’ve left a comment. You are doing a wonderful job. In fact, you handle your parenting, spouse and work responsibilities with more consistency, resilience, grace, and with better execution, than many of us with much less on our plates. Additionally, studies show that being “good enough” is WAY better for your personal well being and happiness, and also that of your children, than acing the many to-dos of life. Good enough parents raise happier, better adjusted kids than “perfect” parents. Good enough friends are way less rigid and critical than “perfect” friends. As for service, you do a lot to endear hope and commitment to love and family in your readers. I’d say you’re doing pretty darn great. When feelings of inadequacy creep in, as they do for all of us, just remember the pathway out of that ditch is not always to do more and be more. Trust yourself. All you ever need to be is yourself, because that is good enough.

  59. Shannon

    Taza, you should get the tile app! http://www.thetileapp.com/

    It’s a “tile” you put on your keys and then you can find it with your smart phone!! I know I sure need it.

    You just can’t lose your phone then ;)

  60. Amy

    …but seriously is your life really going to be better if the beds are made?

  61. Amy

    That comment above was supposed to be of the “be happy with doing your best, a clean house is not all that important’ kind of a comment. Just thought I’d clarify because it did seem a bit mean without my tone of voice.

    And from the little glimpse into your life that I get from this blog it really really seems like you are doing great at the important things!

  62. Rosemary

    Here’s the thing: you have 2 teeny tiny kids who completely take over your world, which is natural. But take heart, because as they grow a little older and get more independent, you will find that things gradually get easier for you. I have found that making the beds and tidying the kitchen every morning before I go out really helps. When the kids were small, they came to know that we could not go out to the park or anywhere until those things were done – it takes about a half hour, and really does help your morale to leave your home knowing you didn’t leave it in chaos. One little step at a time…

  63. Meghan C.

    Judging from your kids’ smiles, you are already an amazing mama (and a very awesome person for that matter)! Everybody gets down on themselves once in a while. It’s always great to gradually improve one or two things you’ve been meaning to work on, but don’t let the comparison game get you down–you are fantastic just the way you are :)

  64. Danielle Freitas

    Can I tell that I love you?! I love you four, thanks for being just like us!
    Big hughs from Brazil!

  65. Jo Dee

    Distance yourself from the drama. Keep your lips closed, walk away, change the subject. Always choose to be the bigger person and compliment everyday! I don’t even like to listen to gossip anymore. I have more important things to do. Drama will drain the life right out of ya! No one needs that. And don’t forget to smile.

    P.S. I’m a dance teacher.:) I teach the babies (3 yr olds). The best job ever. Especially when they show you their boogers!;)

  66. Lexie

    Oh, Naomi. I can completely relate. At the risk of offending someone, I am going to swear here, because it’s the only way I can adequately emphasize what I am about to say: without even knowing you, this mothering thing? You knock that shit out of the park. We all have days when we know we could have done better, but on the days you don’t feel that way, pat yourself on the back. Because you NAILED it. You focused on what was really important: making your kids feel loved.

  67. Stella

    Don’t know you but here it goes….
    I am going to tell you what my mom tells me:
    Quit going out so many places!!!! She says that when she was a stay home mom she stayed home. but, since its not the 80s anymore….Spend at least one day a week at home and don’t leave. You won’t believe how wonderful you will feel at the end of the day. Clean at night after kids are asleep. Don’t leave the house until the breakfast dishes are washed and put away and the bed is made. It is amazing how nice it is to come home from the zoo or butterfly museum or wherever we went for the day and see the made bed and no dishes in the sink. Read the Martha Stewart home keeping book every night. You will feel cleaner. There are days when I do no Internet and this is when I get the most done. Projects?? I stopped having time for sewing after my second daughter was born. Now that my oldest is in kinder, I feel like I have some time to devote to this again, but after the PTA and soccer practice and ballet and all the other stuff that comes with a girl in kinder. You are doing a great job, being a sahm is the toughest and best job I have ever had and I can say that having been a da for 9 years before my current gig.

    And remember, a happy family is an early heaven.

  68. Loved this post, so real, raw, and true. Something we all deal with. We all have great intention but sometimes it’s just so hard to execute it ALL! Good luck Naomi!

  69. Catherine

    Hi Naomi!
    I just wanted to let you know that your posts and instagram pictures make my days! I’m so inspired by your positive outlook on life and your wonderful little family (your babies are the cutest!!!).
    Have a great weekend!! :)

  70. This might not help at all but girl, you are not alone! I could copy and paste those exact words in a blog post from me. Good luck, you can do it!

  71. soeasy

    Hi,
    Every mum in a world can hear you. Recently, i have my first baby and it’s challenging everyday. Seven month are… “ho god she can stand on her feet” (greeeaaat and ho noooo in the same time).
    I wish you luck. Keep on and mostly, baby steps and have fun !

  72. Don’t be too hard on yourself! I know that even though we follow you everyday around here we really don’t know you nor your actual feelings, but I can imagine that you are a perfectionist, Well you are a dancer after all, that says it all. I’m a perfectionist too (I studied dance too, I think it comes with the personality…) and I always think that I could do things better, that I can be better… but I guess I’m ok. I have a job, my family loves me and my wife is happy with me. I think you are ok too.. look at your great family, your thousands of followers and your pretty life! Maybe you are too hard on yourself sometimes… Oh, well, I really don’t know you so maybe I’m wrong but… I don’t know, I just wanted to cheer you up a little bit, you sounded a little bit anxious. I hope you are OK!
    xx,
    E.
    http://www.theslowpace.com

  73. sophie

    They are just lush. Sophie X

    your girl is lovely

  74. P

    Hey Mommy, I don´t even have time to dress approprietly. Sometimes I walk in normal trousers and a hoody, were tons of food spots are :/ I would like to change sth but I don#t even have a plan…

  75. Iva

    Your post is what i feel these days! Thank you for sharing!

    Step by step you will do it!

    Lots of support from Paris!

  76. Tiffany L.

    Taza. Just wanted to say you’re an amazing mom of two little ones. Don’t beat yourself up. We all have bad days. But to be honest I wanted to say to you I am happy I read this post. Not because I take joy in your trouble but because I know you’re human like me with issues. Being a mom of toddlers is tough. I can only imagine how hard some days are. I have an almost three year old and some days I want to pull my hair out. All your pictures are so happy. But it’s nice to see that someone as wonderful as you has bad days like us. Us moms gotta stick together and build each other up. Keep up the good fight. And let all the other crap roll off. Have a good weekend

  77. yes! oh man, this is spot on. as a new mom and an even newer stay at home mom, i feel like i am right there with you. i just want to get it together, but am slowly realizing that it takes baby steps and i won’t be super mom, wife, friend, etc over night. us mommas need to support and lift up each other…it’s tough and we need each other! great post, naomi. thank you for your honesty! wishing you a fabulous weekend :)

  78. Dear Taza,

    Wow, your blog is so wonderfull and your writing is so good!
    I’m a huge fan of your blog.

    Right now my parents are in NY city, for a holiday! When I read your blog I can imagine how they walk there, and enjoying their time.

    Greetings from the Netherlands and keep posting please,

    Love,
    Stella

  79. Sinead

    Good luck with your goals! Have a great weekend :-)

  80. amy

    i love what i heard from a motivational speaker once “you don’t have to get it right, just get it going”

    i always ask myself “in 5 years, when i look back on my life, what will i regret the most not doing” and that makes things a lot clearer for me.

    you are wise & ambitious!

    xx

  81. Elizabeth

    I don’t know if you read all your comments but I love your blog :) and have been following for a while. We have the same lost key issue and by husband came home with this. It’s the best $50 we spent this year :)

    http://www.brookstone.com/Wireless-Key-Finder

  82. jen

    i’ve been in the same place lately…. i hate being in survival mode! i agree, baby steps are key, take things one day at a time!

  83. Myrna

    Exactly what I was thinking… :)

  84. I think the key is to not get complacent. To not be satisfied with “survival mode.” It sounds like you are striving for better, for yourself and your family and that is what is important. For what it’s worth I think you’re awesome and beautiful and you’re dong great. Keep it up lady! Xo

  85. Sophie

    Dear Naomi, your words really echo my feelings these days, these months… however you look such a great mother and a great person to me! I have been crying a lot these last months just because I cannot cope anylonger with all I have to do, for work, for home, for kids, I feel to be such a crap in everything…
    I have been told to try to think that good is good enough, but these inadequate feelings keep coming back to me again and again…
    I also very often read again your post that you published on 28th March this year, called “It’s OK”… your words are here in my mind, in my everyday life trying to be a better person, a better mom, a better wife, a better friend… but I am such in the middle of a burn out at the moment…

  86. Natasza

    Dear Naomi<3beautiful blog and beautiful posts certainly all you bloggers to say:)I started blogging quite recently, I have two daughters and the world revolves around their,,,I invite you to me, I hope that you will like and join….greetings from spain

  87. Nikki

    E is so cute in her little overalls and hat!

    and way to go for wanting to get better. setting goals is always important, especially short term ones. good luck! and remember you rock

    xxoo,
    nikki

    http://www.dreaminneon.blogspot.com

  88. Alice

    Sorry to hear you’ve been having a rough time recently. I think reading things online and in books and in newspapers can so easily make us feel inadequate- but from what I can see, you have a healthy, happy family- and you should be incredibly proud of yourself for that. Chin up lovely- you’re doing brilliantly. Take everything one day at a time, and it WILL all come together. xx

  89. Angelica

    I swear you just wrote so many of the things that i’ve been thinking and wanting.i just wanted to say that i love when you post like this, it shows a more real side to you. very relatable.

  90. Taylor

    Your kids are so stylish. Love it!

  91. Carol

    I loved this post. It makes me feel so much better to know that I’m not the only one whose life is absolutely crazy, and things aren’t always optimal, but that it’s ok because we’re all trying to do and be our best. You and your family are beautiful, and you’re doing a great job! Peace!

  92. Daniela

    Let me tell you that you are not alone! I’m also trying to make different changes, little, but all of them important. I’m also trying to live life better! So, good like!

  93. Danielle

    Hey Naomi.
    Can u tell me where u bought the pink hat for your Daughter?
    Thx.
    Danielle.

  94. Nicole

    Thank you, it’s right what you’re saying and I can tell you I feel similar things in my life these days….
    “coming to realizations, making changes, trying to live life better” is a good start! Yes, I thinks it’s important that we: women, mothers, daughters, girlfriends …. hold together: give us support, love, understanding and more….
    Best wishes and good luck for all of us and our next babysteps! Nicole;-)