it’s a home. not a museum. right?

the other day josh went into eleanor’s room to change her diaper and i guess he decided to quietly take a few photos of the room while he was at it.
later on that day, i found these photos on my phone.
maybe he was trying to tell me something?
i didn’t think it was that bad until i came across the evidence. (thanks, josh*.)
but this is sort of how eleanor’s room looks quite often. and the best part is i can’t really blame it on her quite yet…as she’s only a few months old and not yet this talented. so that means it’s my mess. all me. i look at these pictures and i’m like, “wow. i did that?! i’m capable of that?!” talk about talent, you guys. ;)
our home is really lived in. there is always a little mess somewhere.
i try to tell myself the old saying “it’s a home not a museum” often because the honest truth is that there is a lot of love and wonderful memories made in this space… and that’s what it’s really all about, right?
but then again, i should probably clean more often. you know?
*i feel the need to state that josh wasn’t doing this to be passive aggressive in any way. considering that he does most of the cleaning (and cooking to be honest) around here, these photos were something we laughed at together later that day when i found them.
  1. you should be proud actually of how clean it really is! being a mom of a baby can't be easy and it really takes a lot of time and effort to keep a place picked up, even me & my husband have a tough time, and its just us two! don't be so hard on yourself, instead pat yourself on the back for being a good mom! :)

  2. I are a super busy momma. It happens!

  3. I have three boys 6 and under and I still am wanting the museum home. I have to remind myself that they will always get things out, there will always be a mess somewhere because they are playing and having fun. And if you spend the whole day cleaning, then you aren't spending time with them. I could clean all day everyday but then I would never see my kids!

  4. haha, my dresser always looks like that… sad, but true. <3

  5. I wish your picture didn't look oh so familiar! I have "leave everything open" disease–cupboards, drawers, doors…you name it. :)

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  6. Emily

    I think he took the picture to be tender, so he could remember how sweet the messes are. When you're old old people you won't remember the messes for being messes! Instead, they'll be cute little memories, stashed under a pile of unkempt baby belongings.

    That's my preferred, romantic way of thinking of it at least.

  7. Your floors are amazing, by the way. So is the Eames rocker

  8. Sini

    That just looks cute little mess :) It's not like your home is dirty. Since we got a kitten and I started working full time, our apartment is awful – not cute messy, awful dirty. I feel ashamed of that, and i hate the french way that people keeps shoes inside. Just need to find the energy to clean after work..

  9. Lisa

    nice yellow chest of drawers….you could always blame the mess on Kingsley:)

  10. mj

    Ha ha. Don't worry–soon enough you'll be able to blame it on the kid.

  11. I just came across your little blog and love it! And, that is exactly what my toddler son's room looks like. He's actually good at putting up his toys and clothes – I'm usually the one who makes the mess.

  12. Maybe your husband should have put down the iPhone for five minutes and put a few things away instead of taking "evidence" photos to make you feel guilty.

  13. Liz

    When my home looks like that (and it does quite often) I just ask myself if I had spent my time doing something more worthwhile. Did I spend my time surfing the internet or reading and playing to my kids? If the answer is anywhere near the latter I just smile at my mess and think of the memories and relationships I am building. :)

  14. Such a great saying! I think I'll have a problem remembering my home is not a museum when I have children. I'm very OCD and like everything to look a certain way and for things to be put back in the right spot. I tell my boyfriend to put away his clothes every night before bed. And I make sure the pillows are always in the correct spot on the sofa before leaving for work in the morning. But sometimes I have to remind myself that it's okay to have a mess here and there.

  15. Sara

    oh its just life showing through! My personal theory is that mess is okay, as long as the time not cleaning up the mess was well spent. Actual dirt, however, needs to be addressed tout suite. Big huge difference between mess and dirt =)

  16. I am a clean/organizational freak. But all of that has gone completely out with window with kids. I just cannot keep on top of it! There's a quote at the end of Water for Elephants that really struck home with me. "The sleepless nights, the wailing babies; the days the interior of the house looked like it had been hit by a hurricane;…" It's like that all the tiem! When my kids are bigger, I'll go back to my spotless home. Until then, I want them be comfortable playing with toys and getting things out.

  17. Anna

    I think there's a difference between cluttery & deep down dirty. I'm okay with the former, not with the latter. Just wait til she crawls — the clutter gets even worse. They get into EVERYTHING. But it's also kind of hilarious.

    Oh and have you seen the print, I found it on pinterest, says "Sorry about the MESS but we LIVE here" hahaha. Makes me laugh.

  18. I think there's something wrong with people whose homes are spotless all the time. . . Either they're obsessive about cleaning OR they're hardly ever there, hence the non-messiness. A lived in home is definitely a messy home. It just happens… and 30 minutes after you clean it, it's messy all over again. =) I always say there's a huge difference between a clean-mess and a dirty-mess. One is acceptable and the other is just gross. Like, if there's mold growing on the dish that someone left by the lamp in the living room, that's a dirty mess… but if there are dishes in the sink, waiting to be washed, then that's a normal clean mess. =)

  19. thank god! i thought i was the only one!!!
    i repeat this to myself often- "a clean house is the sign of a misspent life"


  20. this looks like my room and I don't have a baby excuse. :)

  21. Cortney

    You know, in regards to some of the above comments- if you want to be messy, that's fine, be messy. It's your house, your life, your choice- no one should judge you for it! But likewise, please don't try and justify that choice by saying that people in clean houses are weirdos with jacked up priorities, who don't really enjoy life or whatever. Not everyone with a clean house is an OCD anal nut job that can't put the scrubber down, and not everyone in a dirty house is just a "free spirit" who's "embracing the day"- I mean, I think elevating the cleanliness/messiness of one's house into some sort of symbol of a life philosophy is reaching, to say the very least…

    Do what you (general you) want, and rock on. If you (general you) truly don't care about having a messy house, you wouldn't have to justify it so much by throwing clean house people under the proverbial bus (filled with OCD meds and sad, ignored children, from what I've read, lol!).

  22. Alyssa

    where is that bedspread from!?!? I have been searching!!!

  23. Mandi

    This room looks super cute, even with a little mess.

  24. ipe

    Excuse me! How come NO ONE seems to wonder why oh why it's HER job to clean?????? What this husband did sounds to me like a very evil chauvinistic joke! Why he can't clean the mess??????? Is this some sort of blogg for 50s suppressed housewives or what?

  25. New quote I have hanging in my kitchen- my house is clean enough to be healthy and messy enough to be happy

  26. Dani

    That's awesome…I just did a few posts of my house…it's a disaster! lol but like you…I can't blame it on the baby…yet. Although…she does make quite the mess at times!

  27. "It's a home, not a museum" sounds like a good snarky cross-stitch :)

  28. This makes me think of a talk by Pres. Thomas S. Monson where he said:

    "If you are still in the process of raising children, be aware that the tiny fingerprints that show up on almost every newly cleaned surface, the toys scattered about the house, the piles and piles of laundry to be tackled will disappear all too soon and that you will—to your surprise—miss them profoundly."

    The whole talk is really good.;=Joy+Journey

  29. Makes me think of a talk by Thomas S. Monson where he said:

    "If you are still in the process of raising children, be aware that the tiny fingerprints that show up on almost every newly cleaned surface, the toys scattered about the house, the piles and piles of laundry to be tackled will disappear all too soon and that you will—to your surprise—miss them profoundly."

    The whole talk is really good.;=Joy+Journey

  30. Love it! Come to see how is my house with 2 energetic little girls.

  31. I think maybe it's time for me to internalize the 'it's not a museum' message. I actually think it's awesome you posted these – seeing all the perfection on all the blogs out there sometimes makes me feel like what is WRONG with me? My house doesn't look like their houses… reality is a treat sometimes!

  32. Laura

    Good post to read as it's the end of the day and I now have to trudge around picking up every task and item my daughter touched. I always remind myself people (like myself!) don't want to visit a perfect house…they want to come to a comfortable and real home. Thanks!

  33. That's okay, when my mother-in-law found out we were expecting, she told us our house was too filthy to raise her grandchild in. I still haven't let that go, fully. I'm a little messy, a little disorganized, and a little too busy to care! I LIKE neatness and having things in their place, I just don't have the energy to get it done most days. It's refreshing to see people like you publicizing their sloppier side!