check up.

yesterday eleanor and i visited the pediatrician for her six month check up.
i always walk in there with a long list of questions. and i always feel like such a silly newbie mother when i’m reading them off (thankfully we really love her pediatrician and she helps me feel less silly about myself as a mother). if we ever have another baby (yes, please!) it will be nice to have done this all once already… not that having one baby means you know everything about babies, but to have that experience under your belt. to know you were able to keep that first baby breathing past day two. if you know what i mean.
i think back to that first time the nurse handed eleanor to me to hold and i remember thinking, “WHY are you giving her to me? i don’t know how to hold a newborn… it’s been so long.” and then i think back to that first day when eleanor was just two weeks old and my mother left town and josh went back to work and i was about to be all by myself with her…. all day. i remember going into the kitchen before josh left for work with my little infant CPR pamphlet and asking him to go over it once more with me before he left. he kept hugging me and reassuring me that i was going to do great, but still, i was so nervous. then i taped that little pamphlet up on the wall beside her changing table along with a little cheat sheet on “how to swaddle a baby”…. i was a bit of a wreck. being responsible for this sweet life? it was all so new. and exciting, yes. but also… scary.
regardless of all i’m still so unsure of when it comes to rashes or starting solids or sleep patterns, it’s always nice to hear a “she’s looking great. you’re doing great with her, naomi” from someone like her pediatrician. it helps, you know? to have that reassurance from someone who knows a whole lot about babies.
eleanor, we really are doing great. you and me. and just to think how far we’ve come, baby girl! thanks for your patience and forgiving little heart with this first time mommy of yours. xo
  1. Sonja

    Awww this is so sweet.
    That WOULD be scary! I can't even imagine.
    It definitely looks like you're amazing with her though. :o)

  2. Stacy

    You must be doing awesome because I have never seen a happier looking baby. It's a joy to see that cute smiling baby face :)

  3. Oh, how I remember those days, myself! And they don't come with instruction booklets! You're doing great. E is more than precious!

  4. Michelle

    This post made me smile from ear to ear. It is a little easier the second time round. At least you don't take every motherhood failure (of which there are many) to heart as much as you do the first time. You also realize that you're not scarring them for life if you don't do everything right.

  5. Your sweet post was so touching. Thanks for that. I can't wait to be a mother.

  6. R. Grace

    What a sweet post! I was a very sickly, colicky baby, so when my brother came around a year and a half later (and was a perfect angel, of course) my mom was prepared for everything!

  7. Yvonne

    Look at those feet!!!! She is one happy baby and you guys look so happy. I would have thought you might be more stressed and exhausted. If you are then you hide it pretty well :)

  8. Michelle

    I cannot believe she's already 6 months old! Thank you for all these updates. We've really been with you every step of the way. It's nice to know our little girl is doing so well. Congrats :-)

  9. I so remember ALL those feelings. My hubby left for a deployment when our first little baby was only two weeks and I felt the same way! Now my babies are 8 and 5…time flies! You are doing a great job and I L♥ve reading your blog!! :)
    http://justthebeaches.blogspot.com/

  10. sinika

    My hubby and I always laugh (sometimes nervously) to think we're in charge of these three boys?!? It's up to us to help them learn to be great, which is a little scary, but fun too. And it gets more fun with every milestone, whether they're 6 months or 6 years.

    P.S. Is E the happiest baby around?!

  11. it really does make a huge difference with the second child. while i loved being a mother the first time around, now that i have two, i feel more at ease (like i actually know what i'm doing!) i am definitely more confident in trusting my own intuition.

  12. Your posts about E make me smile. I'm not quite at the mother stage of life yet but it still warms my heart to read these posts of yours.

  13. This is so sweet. Makes me tear up a little :) I can't wait to be a mommy!

  14. Diana

    i can totally relate. i was a total wreak myself! i read soo many books on pregnancy and giving birth, but none on how to take care of newborn/child. i remember feeling reeeeally anxious the day i brought her home. i totally LOL when i read your "keep that first baby breathing past day two." i was the same way for like the first year.

    E looks like she is doing great! i love her chunky rolls! i miss that in my Sophia. Her rolls started to roll off when she started crawling at 9 months. : (

    i'm 2 years and 2 1/2 months into being a first time mommy and still learning and trying to figure out new things, i.e; temper tantrums, potty training

    keep up the good job naomi!

  15. this is the sweetest, You are a great momma, e is lucky!
    You are an inspiration to me!

  16. I felt the same way! A dear friend reassured me that my sweet daughter really didn't know anything different due to the fact that I was her mommy and she really didn't have anyone to compare me to … lol.

  17. Linka

    I feel the same way with my baby. Tons of questions all the time. But that's part of being a mom…a great mom! Such a sweet post

  18. Liz

    You're the sweetest mama ever. You couldn't do anything wrong if you tried :) But I can imagine it is extremely reassuring to chat with your pediatrician!

  19. aw, this is so sweet. you seem like a wonderful mother ;)

  20. somehow being a mommy just comes naturally to those who love like you do! (do you cry when she gets her shots? i sure did!) xo

  21. Mrs L...

    Congratulations on having a healthy baby and being a super mom to her!

  22. this is so sweet. i love your posts about eleanor/motherhood.

  23. Thank you so much for being honest about your new mommy experiences! She is the cutest and it looks like you are a fabulous mother.

  24. Awwww. You sure seem to be doing great. It can't be that hard though, look how cute she is?

    I always wanted a dark haired baby. I had four dirty blonde babies. One went dark but not until he was 6. Not the same thing. She's a gorgeous little creature.

  25. Ana MF

    Awww this is such a sweet and cute post :)

  26. becky

    Some of my favourite posts of yours are ones like this–ones so raw and honest and, it has to be said, vulnerable. Because we do like encouragement–that's the crux of it. These days it is so, so frowned upon to want a pat on the back or a congratulations but–my–it is so, so needed. In all walks of life. So why not with motherhood? Perhaps the most natural thing in the world, yes. But undoubtedly one of the most terrifying. From what you post here: you're doing great. She looks like the healthiest and happiest of babies and you, you look like the most doting and glowing of mothers.

  27. Libby

    This sounds so familiar to me.

    When my first was born, I searched online for some really detailed infant CPR instructions and printed them out for his nursery. I'd check every few days to make sure they were still in the drawer were I'd left them.

    Now I've got two little babes and I'm so relieved that I've never once had to use those instructions (although I do still keep them around…)

  28. Keenan

    I'm also about to be a new Mom in DC living on the Hill too (due 9/10/11), and wondering which pediatrician you use? Do you see Dr. Wirt? I've heard he is great! Would love to know who you've had such a great experience with!

  29. I know just how you feel! I had no idea what I was doing, and even now that Miss L is two everything is still for the first time. But we are going to be pros if/when #2 comes around!

  30. Samantha

    I totally know how you feel. My little one is 4 1/2 months old and his 4 month check-up was the first time I didn't cry when he got his shots. I felt silly too, but you just don't know what it's like until you have a baby in your care.

  31. I can tell that baby is loved and cared for like no other!

  32. AJD ∞

    Just so you know, you may feel like you have no idea what you're doing, but your blog posts make me excited about being a mom! You make it look so fun and precious. Keep it up, girl! :]

  33. I always knew you would be a wonderful mother<3

  34. Ryann

    You are doing a wonderfully amazing job! I look back to almost 14 years ago when I was a new Mommy and think after 5 kids, I have come a long way. You both look happy and content, and that is the most important thing. And to enjoy her and all those special moments–which it looks like you already realize. The post of E's room was priceless, because you are more wise than most of us, the laughter and the memories are what make a home, not a museum:) Love your blog, you inspire me too!

  35. I'm sure you are a wonderful mother and doing a great job. It's okay to ask questions. It's better to ask then to wonder.

  36. A.E.

    Naomi, I love your humility and honesty. You really are a rockstar, and a rockstar mom nonetheless!

  37. Paula

    You seem like a wonderful mother! Eleanor always looks so sweet and happy in all of your pictures! Even the second time around you can still have lots of questions. I had my little boys 7 years apart and it was like being a new mom all over again!

    http://www.thewilyweez.blogspot.com

  38. Thank you for your thoughts. It's good to hear that you can have lots of fun and great pictures and nice adventures with husband, baby and dog and still be unsure and "uhlala" at the same time. I like that mixture!

    smiles,
    Franziska

  39. It's so refreshing to read posts like this from other first time mamas. I know EXACTLY how you feel and my baby girl is only 2 months old. I feel completely out of my element and learn something new every day and I ask other moms and our pediatrician TONS of questions! It helps to know I'm not the only one in the world to be a new mama. You are doing great. She's just perfect and you can see how happy she is.

  40. Robin

    I just absolutely love this post.

  41. my little girl will be 6 months next week and you sound just like me! I remember that first time being alone, it was like, wait a minute, you are NOT STAYING? I was very nervous, but now i would not have it any other way then just me and her (and her papa when he is not at work!)

  42. Dani

    I totally get where you are coming from…I'm a first time momma too…My little will be one on the 31st…EEEK…not sure how we made it but somehow we did! (I've also been a single momma for the last 8 months…so I really don't know HOW we made it.)

    This morning before leaving for work I squshed my littles fingers in the dishwasher…there we tears and screams and what seemed like mintues of no breathing…whew. But again…we survived.

    You're going a GREAT job! She's just too cute!

  43. I have the greatest pediatrician. With every kid I get the same scared feeling (and I have 3!) and he always says, "S/he's perfect. You're doing perfectly." It's such a relief to hear!

  44. Naomi

    This is such a great post! I remember feeling so scared when the doctor told us we could actually leave the hospital and take our son home with us. I almost wanted to say "No, you don't understand, we've never had one of these before."

    It's amazing how different you can be from baby #1 to baby #2. I feel like I've grown so much.

  45. She is adorable!! Love her chubby little legs! You are doing great. I lovee reading your blog! Check mine out if you want! cbabbitt.blogspot.com

  46. BMarie

    I can totally relate. My daughter is 6 months older than E and I thought about messaging you what to expect and tell you stuff, but each baby is all his/her own, each experience, birth story and firsts are all so different. I stopped reading all those books so faithfully – I use them as reference as well as my pediatrician, but I just go with my heart and what feels best. As long as baby and I are smiling I say "hey, we're doing alright!" You are doing a fantastic job! Well done Naomi. Isn't having a baby the greatest gift ever!?!? I will say though enjoy every minute because it does go by fast! Much Love!

  47. As someone who has worked with kids for years {I'm a nanny} I can relate to those feelings of responsibility for another human. And those questions you keep compiling, they never stop. Each new milestone is accompanied by 10 new questions and countless new and wonderful experiences.

  48. Loved this post! Motherhood, is so lovely and stressful.

  49. Nems

    this is so sweet.

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  51. aww, this was such a sweet, honest post. i can't wait to have a beautiful baby and go through these things :)

  52. You ARE doing great! I'm a foster care social worker and I see lots of babies and older kids that need love; I can tell that Eleanor gets all the love and care she needs plus more. It's sweet to see how in love with her you and Josh are.
    ~ Angela
    grahamandangela.blogspot.com

  53. joy

    Wonderfully written–so Heartfelt! I just had my son's 9 month check up and agree with your thoughts. Everything you share on your blog shows the genuine love and nurturing relationships in your family. Happy 6 months :)

  54. Aww that is completely endearing that you were so worried on your first "official" day. So cute!

    You're doing awesome! Just look how happy Eleanor is! She knows she's got an amazing mama. ^_^

  55. I just had my second baby and while it's nice to have a bit of experience already, I have forgotten everything from the first so it's like I'm a newbie mom again! With each child comes different questions. You are an amazing mom with an absolutely adorable baby girl. Thanks for sharing your life with us :)

  56. Delaney

    You have such a great way with words! This was so great. I have those same fears about my future kids. I joked around with my mom telling her I will probably check on my babies 100 times throughout the night, just to make sure they are breathing. It is a lot of responsibility to take care of a life! A precious life at that too!

  57. Erin

    Remember, she's a first time baby! She has no expectations. You're doing great!

  58. Olga

    I am not a mother yet, but I have to say that I love your wooden floor.

  59. tRiSh

    I don't know why I'm crying reading your post but I am.
    I'm overwhelmed by your sharing your life in pictures, but your words are so precious: you just make sense and people can really relate.
    Thank you Naomi, for giving strength yo us.

    And you are doing great, look at those wonderful beautiful lovely smile E. gives you when you take her picture… =)

  60. colleen

    this was so sweet. seriously. and as someone who only knows you through the blog, she looks incredibly happy, and if a baby looks that happy, mom and dad are doing something right. keep it up!

  61. my biggest worry-thing was my son having a fever, even though he didn't get his first fever until he was over 2, it really rattled me! i think the second time around with most big things in life is always a bit easier on the brain. like for my first pregnancy i was so nervous of what was to come & now that i've been there & we're trying for another one, i'm not that nervous. i'm just like "ok, i'm gonna be fat, sick & miserable, let's do this!"

    xx

  62. Wow. I'm not a mommy yet but it's so neat to hear your thoughts and get a little glimpse into the real side of taking care of a little one. Thanks for being so darling and honest. LOVE your blog everyday.

  63. I agree and relate to every word you wrote. It's comforting just to read that other new moms have some of the same rational/irrational mommy moments.

  64. Seriously, I admire your patience and love of mothering. I sometimes feel frustrated and suffocated, but I know that I wouldn't give it up for the world. You always seem to be in love with being a mother, and that's, honestly, a gift.

  65. I don't even have a kid, but I get scared that when i do I'll stuff it up. You're always doing better than you think :D but I'm sure a paedeatrician would make you feel a whole lot better! :D

  66. she is so sweet. you are very lucky.

  67. Oh my goodness this is so sweet *tear*

  68. Mri

    You have such a great family ! Eleanor is so cute !
    I also watched your saturday video ! It's amazing ^^
    I love your blog

  69. As the mother of 5, I can say I felt the same way at the beginning. I didn't want my mother to come because I thought she would know how to do everything better than me and my new baby would like her more. Ridiculous, I know. Then I realized that everything you are doing for the first time, the baby is doing for the first time too. As far as Eleanor is concerned, you are the perfect mommy. The way you do everything is the only way she knows it could be done. Be confident and rest in the knowledge that you and Eleanor were made for each other.

  70. I know exactly what you mean. At out last appt our doc said to us, You two should have ten babies! You are naturals at this and you're doing a great job. It was so nice to hear! E looks so happy and it is obvious that you are an amazing mama.

    Kacie
    A Collection of Passions

  71. Brooke

    Absolutely! I am not a fan of doctors and before my daughter was born I was in the "she's my baby and I know her better than any doctor" camp. But with each checkup (we've had just 3), I enjoy hearing that we're doing well. Especially when you're exclusively breastfeeding. E is beautiful. I have a new "E" too.

  72. aww this is so sweet to hear how concerned you are. The fact that you take a moment to think and care about your child is better than some mothers out there. Eleanor is just beautiful and I have no worries she will grow up just fine!