oh man. here we are, ten months in and i still don’t have a solid grasp on our nights with our baby girls. just when i think we maybe figured it out, and we’re all sleeping soundly….there is a new tooth coming in, or a growth spurt that throws things off entirely and we’re back to square one. i hear about a lot of mamas with multiples who have it down to a T, and while i stand in complete awe, i guess i just felt like i wanted to let anyone who doesn’t have it all figured out when it comes to sleep and kiddos know that it’s cool, i don’t either. and this is my fourth and fifth baby, and i’ve also read a lot of books and taken an e-course on the whole situation, which kind of makes this declaration a little bit embarrassing perhaps. BUT i also feel more strongly than ever that how i’m doing it is best for all of us over here, and it’s totally my call (just as it is yours in your household with your little ones).
where we are currently is still nursing on demand and co-sleeping (most of the time they’re in their docking station pillows) on a mattress on the floor. why on the floor? because it was easier for my peace of mind to just give away the bed-frame and bring us all low to the ground so no one can accidentally hurt themselves if they roll around at night, and also, they can crawl on and off on their own now as they independently begin to navigate and explore.
we’re also somewhere in-between a game of what we call “musical beds” over here, because conrad will still call out for papa in the middle of the night on occasion, so josh sometimes ends up in the kids’ room (although i should note that my older three are solid sleepers these days and make bedtime a breeze… finally!). and also sometimes we pull the sofa bed out in the front room so josh can have a legit nights rest away from me and the babies who have taken over his bed for now. but when my babies are beside me in bed, they sleep better. i sleep better. and it works for us for this short chapter. i’m not recommending what we do to anyone, i understand that a lot of people are against co-sleeping and that there are risks. but having ended up c0-sleeping with my other three littles when they were smaller, i just know this is the way i prefer to do it and so it’s how we’re doing it.
something that madalena and beatrice are teaching me, is that every single baby is so very different. i knew this before, of course, but they are driving this messaging home every single day. for example, i introduced a pacifier to both of them on the very same day when they were a few weeks old, and one loves and takes it, and the other does not. it’s a nice reminder that each baby is uniquely different with their preferences from the get-go, so it all will ebb and flow from one baby to the next in a family.
i have loved the past ten months with these two. i have savored much of the nights where i am nursing one at a time (i stopped nursing them together at about 6 months when they were getting too big for my tandem nursing pillow) and i keep reminding myself to enjoy these last few months with our current set up. i am not sure when i will wean them, but i know this stage will be over before i’m ready and we’ll have sleeping babies in toddler beds and rarely be called for by our others before too long. i do think more sleep for myself and josh at night would be beneficial and i look forward to when that happens again. and i know it’ll happen again eventually. i’ve learned that for myself, it’s important to remind myself whenever i’m in the thick of something regarding a parenting chapter that it isn’t forever.
also, it’s a good thing these cuties are such cuties! i have a feeling that’s why God made babies so cute. because many of them deprive us of so much sleep it helps lessen the blow. ;)
cheers to this chapter, to navigating it as best you can and just following your gut and doing what works for you and your family, even if it’s not ideal and still a work in process and still not totally figured out just right. we got this!