these photos are from several weeks ago, but i wanted to share them along with some of the things that i’ve found have eased my mind and body lately when it comes to carrying twins. i remember feeling so big in these photos and now, over a month later, i am laughing so hard. my bump hadn’t seen nothin’ yet when it comes to popping! each morning lately, i wake up bigger than the day before and it’s part fascinating to witness and also terrifying that it can grow at such incredible speed.
while this pregnancy has been difficult for me in so many regards, i certainly hope it doesn’t come off as though i’m complaining when i share that. i’m saying silent prayers of gratitude throughout my day and when i feel the babies move, i swear, i could cry every time.
when i was pregnant with eleanor, samson and conrad, i lived for my pregnancies. they were smooth sailing in comparison to what i’m in the midst of right now, that i feel really fortunate now having experienced them in that way. in contrast, they were so very mild and i’m thankful. amazing how different each one can be from the next, even for the same woman.
there have been little things along the way these past few months that have made a world of difference in the midst of all the nausea, barfing, cramping, insomnia, extreme pelvic pressure and fatigue. did i just scare anyone away from wanting to have babies in the future?! i hope not. because the end result, not to mention just that newborn smell alone, is everything. and fortunately our bodies have a way of forgetting the extreme pain once that magical bundle (or two) are placed in our arms.
i’ve shared similar lists in the past, and while i’m still no expert, because every pregnancy, even with the same woman, is so very different, this is all the stuff that’s saving me this round.
a little list of 9 things that have helped ease my body and mind lately, and hopefully some of them might be able to work for you!
1. BODY PILLOW
i don’t know why i didn’t use one in years past, because i can’t sleep without this body pillow right now and it’s saving me around two or three in the morning when i’m especially uncomfortable.
2. SHEA BUTTER
it makes sense, but i’m still in complete shock with how quickly this baby bump is doubling in size this time around. and since my skin is extra dry and often itchy in the winter months, i have been using l’occitane shea butter morning and night to lather up my bump, back, breasts and thigh area (where the stretch marks are really making themselves known), and i find it helps take away the itch and hopefully lessen the intensity of the stretching and markings. i used this product with all three of my other pregnancies and loved it. still loving it this round as well. can’t rave about it enough.
3. ALL THE KISSES AND HUGS
all the kisses and hugs my three other babies are constantly giving my tummy. conrad comes over multiple times during the day and says, “mama, your babies okay?!” and it calms me so much seeing how he already loves on them during the day.
4. HERBAL TEA
while the ginger hasn’t worked for me this pregnancy, a cup of herbal tea is something i look forward to every day. this wild sweet orange tea by tazo is my all time favorite. has been for years, but somehow tastes all the more sweet during pregnancy.
5. BATHS + BATH SOAKS
i’m always nervous about baths when i’m pregnant, but i love to sit in the tub every night with hot water running on my back for a few minutes. my tub is actually extra long and has a small ledge where i can rest my head which is everything lately. recently, i’ve been going in there when the back and shoulder cramping is especially bad in the early hours of the morning and get into a comfortable resting position in the tub to sleep. it sometimes feels a lot more comfortable than my bed because of the flowing water. i just started using this bath soak by goop and have really enjoyed it.
6. COMFORTABLE SHOES
still love a good heel, but have been living in flats that give great support and comfort. i’ve been favoring this pair in black, but since spring is basically here and i love me some color, i ordered these a few weeks ago in the peachy rust color and have worn them almost every day this past week. so comfortable! and the color makes me happy, so it’s an extra win.
7. PRENATAL MASSAGE
this one is such a luxury, but gosh, is it wonderful. i had my first prenatal massage when i was pregnant with conrad and if you know me in person, i have probably told you about the experience more than once. it was one of those experiences that changed my life, i’m serious! josh got me a few more prenatal massages as a christmas gift this year and i have been savoring them! even if you can’t get into a massage therapist, just having someone at home help the knots and aches in your back and legs (the charlie horses in my calves right now!!!!) goes a long way and can help a ton.
8. ALL THE WATER
i have been trying to carry a water bottle with me everywhere which helps the likelihood i’ll actually drink the stuff. reaching for water isn’t my strong suit, so this has helped. we rave about these kleen kanteens a lot, because the insulated bottles can keep your drinks iced for 40 to 120 hours! (we like the swing lok caps a lot.) between that and fishing out all the ice chips in my freezer, i am a happy girl.
9. A SOLID SUPPORT SYSTEM
it goes without saying my hormones have been everything this pregnancy, and i’ve felt incredible guilt not being able to do as much as i normally would with my kids, with work, with friends… the majority of the first 21 weeks of this pregnancy i was either in bed or hunched over a toilet. it took such a toll on me mentally. i am so thankful for the support i felt from my loved ones and close friends. my girlfriend amanda dropped off literally all of my favorite treats and an array of sparkling waters in hopes i could hold one down, and i remember the gesture just made me feel so loved. josh gave me a card at the dinner table one evening that had me rolling (it was an emoji card that said “sorry you feel like s#*t! thanks for growing our babies” and i have it by my nightstand. i’ve had so many friends offer to take my kids for the afternoon or just drop by to drop off a diet coke, and i hope they know how much i appreciate it. if you can find yourself just one or two golden people, it makes all the difference.
anything you’ve found especially helpful to get through pregnancy, sound off in the comments for all of us!